Father in law just diagnosed with Large cell Lung cancer.

Hi Nick

So sorry that you have cause to be on here.

Covid travel restrictions not withstanding, before you do anything hasty is there anyway you could contact your father in law's consultant (with father-in law's permission f course)?

Kegsy x

Hi Nick99. Welcome to the group, although sorry you find yourself here. What a predicament you find yourself in. I guess your parent in-laws do not have any other family there for support? Hearing that cancer diagnoses is extremely scary, and it could be that they both have gone into panic mode. Lung cancer has come a very long way with treatments, and there are many of us here who are incurable, but are treatable.  Until you get the full diagnoses it will be very difficult for you to decide what to do. Throw covid into the mix and I don’t even know how possible it would be for you to move there any time soon? What an awful dilemma. 

Hi Nick99, sorry about your father in law’s diagnoses. There are many of us here who are stage 4, me included. There are treatment options, but that would be down to your father in law’s oncology team to say whether chemotherapy or immunotherapy will be possible. I hope the move will be feasible with the covid restrictions. I wish your father in law all the best. 

So we've bought tickets, preparing to ship our stuff overseas, did that in two weeks.  Very stressful as we have a three year old.  To make matters worse the whole Brexxit thing plus COVID, I'm english so I can only stay three months.  Just wanted any advice about what treatment he will be given.  I understand if its stage four it will be treated as palliative care.  I've read all these articles about all these wonderful new drugs that can extend life I feel extremely selfish worrying about moving there, after all it's not me diagnosed with this horrible disease. 

Hi Nick99, gosh you have been busy. I’m really sorry you have all this uncertainty. No one can second guess what treatment your father in law will be given.  Everybody’s journey is different, and people react differently to treatments.  Stage 4 does not mean end of life for many. I myself was diagnosed as stage 4 in 2014.

I don’t think you will really know what is going on until you speak to his medical team. I wish you lots of luck with the journey. I expect your wife will be relieved to be there. 

Take care 

My mother was diagnosed with adenicarcinoma in the left lung and liver metatases last week, and will be starting immunotherapy tomorrow. The oncologist actually seemed quite positive about it being treatable, even though surgery isn’t an option. Apparently this type of treatment is still fairly new but supposed to be quite successful. She is in Germany and I am in the UK so can sympathise with the worries about distance etc.

My initial instinct was to rush over, which, as the diagnosis coincided with borders being closed due to new Covid strain, but with the prognosis she has been given now I feel we have more time. My siblings can support physically, while I unfortunately have to stick to videocalls, but I can’t risk exposing her (or my dad) to the virus

Anyway, point is, that your father in law should definitely talk to his oncologist team about options, as he may still have quite a lot of time with good quality of life ahead of him, so should not just give up yet