Her partner has said she's draining him but she does all the washing, cooking and cleaning that's required and it isn't enough for him and she won't leave him she hasn't eaten for 3 days I want to step in but don't want her to see it as a negative response on my behalf. I have bipolar disorder myself but I'm more than happy to have her live with me but it has to be on her terms
I am so sorry your mum is going through this. Your home should feel like a safe place when you are undergoing cancer treatment, and I know how difficult this will be for you to watch.
if mum hasn’t eaten for 3 days, then this is very serious. I know it is difficult, and you won’t want to get involved in mum’s relationship, but this will seriously effect her health. There are a couple of things you can do. Firstly speak to her GP she cannot continue without food. Also I strongly suggest you contact womensaid for advice. You or mum can also call the Macmillan support line on 0808 808 00 00 any day from 8am until 8pm.
Hello Lullaby3fb87a
I’m Steph and I’m part of the Online Community Team here at Macmillan. May I wish you another warm welcome to the Community, although I’m sorry that circumstances bring you here.
I was sorry to read about everything you’re going through with your mum. It’s positive that you are reaching out for some support from the Community, and I hope you’ll continue to do so. Chelle has already offered you some good advice and contacts to try. Do you think you might reach out for some professional support?
I’d encourage you to contact our Support Line to talk things through whenever you can. It's a good idea to encourage your mum to give them a call too. Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.
It’s not uncommon for people living with cancer to experience low mood. It sounds like your mum might be all feeling overwhelmed by a number of things at the moment. It’s really important that you encourage mum to seek professional support. You might want to reassure her that it’s not uncommon to feel this way and that there are people who are there to listen and help her through this.
The ‘Supporting someone with cancer’ section of our website has lots of helpful information about how to support someone and find the right support for yourself.
We would recommend you have a look the section about adult social care. There are many ways the adult social care service at your local council can help someone with cancer. They can also support anyone helping to care for that person.
I hope you find the support you’re looking for. Please do let us know if you have any questions or need further support with anything at all. I hope the Community helps to show you that you don’t have to go through this alone.
