Being terminal but still have many other life issues.

Hi Kegsy! 

Firstly my question is to you ! Why did you wait for years to come on this place ?

I didnt want to start a thred ! only to make a comment that may help others to know that you dont have to talk about things if you can stay strong in your mind and just know that you have a disease that is one of many that life can hit you with but also you can help yourself by being strong and just dealing with it as we should all try to deal with life .

You seem to think i posted as a cry for help but i have never asked for help all my life and never intend to.

I think Macmillians are fantastic and i support them all the time by the only way i can by my money, but they can only assist as much as much as people want to be assisted using their own strength.

I actually count myself lucky to have got this far in life without being killed from a million things and have had my family this long, so my comment was saying dont give in to all the bad things others are going through, just help if they want it but let others get strong in their own minds.

Bless

Paul

Hi Gina,

I never blinked an eye when i was diagnosed, i just accept thats what can happen in life. Years ago i nearly died from an aortic anuerism but i had a major op for 8 hours that saved me . I accepted that i had 50/50 chance then and i made it , these are what you have to deal with in life. I am still alive now even though i have cancer and i intend to keep living ! I have a lot more to do and i dont intend to feel down from reading bad or dismall people talking about it ! 

Thats what i wanted to say on my comment ! Just get stronger when you have bad news cos if you can type on here you are not dead !

Paul 

Gina, my post was just a comment that i hoped would others who may on this site but never comment ! Cos they dont need to , some of us are ok just reading and dealing with life on our own.

My other issues in life was just a window into what many other people have and so they knew they were not alone .

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Gina ! would you tell me about Horners ?  I was told i had that  30 years ago !  I am interested ? 

Thanks 

Paul 

Paul

Do you really believe that we all sound down and dismal? I have been living with cancer for 10 years now, and I am NOT a negative person in any way shape or form. I come onto this site to be with like minded people, and to give support where it may be needed.  I personally have found your post very unhelpful. I would feel absolutely mortified if I believed that people were feeling down or negative after reading any of my  posts.

Blessed day. 

Hi Paul

I didn't feel the need to come on here for advice or support; hence the time gap between my diagnosis/treatment and my sign-up to the site. As I stated in my initial reply, I only joined on here when I saw my experiences of going through and surviving Small Cell Lung Cancer may be of help. 

Well done that you have never asked for hep and never intend to; long may that continue for you. No I didn't think your post was a cry for help or anything similar. Congratulations though;  your post has stirred up a range of replies which I suspect was the intention.

However my rhetorical question still stands; why join a site that is specifically designed for people with cancer who feel that they need to seek support and advice from those in similar positions, when you clearly feel that everyone should have the same stoic approach as you.  

Kegsy

Idea!!

Let's put this to bed and live and let live :) 

Good idea imac.

It was really upsetting this morning to read that someone here was saying that our comments were not helpful but were indeed making people feel worse! But you are right, I shall move on, I have far more important things to think about today than someone who obviously came on here to stir the pot. 

Hi everyone, 

We've made the decision to lock this thread, if you have any questions please send an email to community@macmillan.org.uk. 

Kindest regards, 

Rachel 
Macmillan's Community Team