What do you do to support a loved one with lung cancer?

Hi concernedhubby

There is no right or wrong way. We chose to live each day as if nothing has changed. We still book holidays way in advance, we’ve just booked a cruise for November 2020.  We’ve only paid a £50 deposit so nothing to lose if we can’t go.  I chose to give up work, my choice not the cancers. We spend as much time together as we can. I’m slower and not as mobile, but we laugh a lot. You might think you can’t laugh again, but you can.

There is also a carers group on this site you might want to join. You might be able to talk to others in the same situation as you. 

Hi

The only person who can truly answer this is your wife.  Have you asked her how best you can support her through this? Don't expect an answer straight away; perhaps ask her to think about it and jot down some aspects of support both practical and emotional. Anything she comes up with can then be the starting point for an ongoing discussion.

Both the MacMillan and Cancer Research websites have advice on how to support someone with cancer; which you may find usefull.

Importantly, make sure you look after yourself and that you have someone to support you!

I wish the best possible outcomes for your wife.

Kegsy x

Hi CH

It is so nice that you are asking this. 

We are all so different and the best person to tell you what they would like is your partner. I always suggest take the lead from them. Some will not want to talk about it, some want a shoulder to cry on. That can change in the space of five minutes at a time too!

Don't forget to also take care of you and get support for you too however. It takes it's toll just as much as to those around us.