My husband has inoperable lung cancer and recently started chemotherapy. He was tired before but this something else plus he has little of no appetite. I feel awful that life has suddenly become so restricted. I am reluctant to go out and meet up with friends and bowl because it's emphasising that he can't. Im not sure if it's guilt but isn't it all so very tiring. I fo less but am so tired.
Hi Roberto caring for a loved one with cancer is emotionally draining. I am not surprised you are feeling tired. I have been on both sides, I cared for my mum and my step mum who both say passed with ovarian cancer. My mum I cared for at home, whilst trying to hold down a job and look after 3 children. I know how hard it is, and the guilt you feel from doing “normal” things when a loved one can’t. Now I’m on the other side, and my husband is my carer, and I worry about how much I put on him, and how much of life he is missing out on.
You must take time for yourself or you will burn out. Please consider continuing with your bowling, getting that little break away, being able to chat with friends, will make you stronger and more able to cope in your caring role. We all need some normality, and some me time. Looking after yourself is just as important as looking after your husband.
I can see you haven’t joined any of the carers groups here on the online community. Maybe take a look at the Carers only forum and the Family and friends forum where you can connect with other people who are going through a similar thing.
Also the MacMillan support line is available 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm on 0808 808 00 00.
