I’m really sorry if this isn’t the right place, I’ve never done this before but I just need to vent, my mum was diagnosed with liver cancer in October and had to have stents fitted. She’s been extremely secretive about the stage of cancer she’s at and myself, brother and sister have been kept in the dark…I’m not sure whether mum is doing this to protect us or not all we knew up to February of this year was that she was having chemo to shrink it then an operation was mentioned about taking a small part of the liver away. That all came to a halt when she became poorly after a blood transfusion and since then she’s gone downhill quickly. She’s currently in hospital she can’t eat, she can’t walk, she’s yellow and disoriented and her stomach as swollen up like a balloon the nurses there are not telling us what is happening and my mum is now no longer making any sense and hallucinating seeing people around her who arnt there. I’m so upset and scared and nobody will give me answers!! I’ve no support at home I’ve got 3 children and I work full time so I’m juggling my home and work life and trying my best to be there for mum but it’s so hard trying to stay strong when I’ve nobody who understands and I’ve nobody to talk to! Whenever I’ve needed somebody my mum as always been there for me and now I’m watching her slip away in front of my eyes I’m struggling immensely. Sorry if this is too much I just don’t know where else to turn.
Hi Charmaine14 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm really sorry to read how poorly your mum is at the moment and also how much you're struggling to cope with everything. I haven't been in your position, as I am the one with cancer, but it sounds like you're going through an extremely stressful time right now.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you also join and post in the family and friends group which is a safe and supportive places to discuss your worries and emotions with others who have a loved one living with cancer.
If this is something that you'd like to do, clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there where you can then join and start a new post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It could well be that your mum wants to protect you and your siblings and that is why she hasn't told you all the ins and outs of her cancer diagnosis. However, I can understand your need to know more at this point. Would your mum give permission to her consultant and/or cancer nurse specialist (CNS), sometimes referred to as a keyworker, to answer any questions that you have? This would mean that you'd be kept fully informed with what is happening.
Sending a big (((hug)))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Oh, I'm so sorry to read this Charmaine14
Please do consider joining the bereaved family and friends group for the support you need,
(((hugs)))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
