My best friend recently diagnosed terminal no treatment available I’m gutted I honestly am no1 deserves to hear the words terminal she won’t let me see her she wants me to remember her how she was which is heartbreaking for me I wanted to see her 1 last time and don’t want to upset her anymore than what she is at the moment with hearing this news I just don’t know how long she has left I feel helpless I want to be prepared but how are you ever prepared for this news I want her to know that I’m here if she ever needs me and I’d drop everything to be with her I won’t even get the chance to say goodbye and that’s hitting me hard I know I probably sound selfish but I’m not I lost my dad 4 years ago to cancer I know how hard it is to go through but I’m just glad I was with him when he died to say goodbye and I’m not going to get the chance with her I just want a bit of advice of how I can go about this without putting her under to much stress
I also don’t think she has long at all if no treatment can be given like I said I know the procedure with my dad he was given 2 months after treatment failed and he lasted 6 weeks I think if she had longer than that then they would try her on treatment
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your friend has recently been diagnosed with terminal liver cancer. I don't think you sound selfish at all! Just a very good friend who wants to be there if they can.
As you know the online community is divided up into different support groups so I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you also join and post in the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your emotions as well as practical issues.
If you'd like to join then clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there where you can join and post in the same way as you did here.
You might also find this information form Macmillan on supporting someone with cancer helpful.
Sending a virtual (((hug)))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
I'm really sorry to hear this news . Please don't feel guilty that it's your friend that's going through this and not you. I'm sure she would want you to continue to lead the best life that you can.
If she has passed away you might find it helpful talking to others in the bereaved family and friends group as they'll understand what you're going through.
x
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Could you send a text to her phone and if she has passed away hopefully her husband will contact you? Not ideal but the only thing I can think of other than going round to her house and I can understand that that might be very difficult for you.
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
