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Coming to terms with cancer

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Hiya I'm new here, and I hope you all don't think me being over the top and being silly.

After a few years of investigation into pain in my right side related to my stomach and liver, I was sent for another MRI scan, so October last year I was asked to go for an appointment in urology. I didn't have a clue what for.

Anyway at the appointment I was told they had found a tumour in my right kidney, and wanted to do a biopsy, anyway after a 2nd appointment the consultant decided to bypass the biopsy and operate so I have a major op in January this year to have the tumor removed.  Then I saw my consultant a 4 weeks later and was told the tumour was stage 2 cancer.  

As you can imagine this has totally messed my head up, I'm extremely grateful for the speed in which things were done,  and at the moment the consultant is happy it's all been removed, I've got to go back in August for another MRI scan to see if it's coming back.

I feel compared to some poor people  I'm being totally selfish feeling the way I do. But I'm struggling to come to terms with everything like how quickly it all happened and what if it comes back.

I'm so sorry if I've upset anyone in saying how it's making me feel. 

Any advice 

  • I think the feelings you have articulated are totally normal for someone with your experience.  If you browse this forum others have mentioned the same, the shock, the rush to treatment, and "then what?".  I didn't have a nephrectomy but it does take time and gradually things get better, you learn coping strategies etc.  

  • You are entitled to feel this way. This is a big thing to deal with. Stay strong. We are here to support you. Lxx

  • in reply to Mmum

    The voice of wizdom..your right. I'm a week away to my nephrectomy. Such a relief to be near my op. Soon be over. Lxx 

  • Hello a year ago I was exactly where you are. Total surprise open surgery within a 8 weeks right total nephrectomy and kidney removal.

    please don’t underestimate what you have had  done I did because I didn’t have chemo etc and have had a difficult recovery which is still ongoing . Waiting for my yearly scan results and struggling with post op symptoms and neuropathy. I did take counselling and that is helping.   Happy to chat 

  • in reply to Nettywill

    Thank you for your reply. I feel very much stuck at the moment. I still get a small amount of pain if I've been bending to much or doing to much. I was told by my consultant that I had to stay off work for the 8 weeks after the operation, and that ends on the 5th March. But I feel lost I'm trying to come to terms with it all as it happened so fast and I try to speak to people but all I get is well the cancer has gone for now so don't worry. But thats the thing I do think about it all the time. It was found by accident. Plus I don't know what to do concerning work, I work for Royal Mail so it's not a light job, but having said that so far my boss has been good and told me how we will go about things when I return. But my son ( who works there ) and colleges are telling me to milk it and stay off as long as I can. My doctor has said if I need more time she will give me another certificate. My head is everywhere. 

  • in reply to Mmum

    Well my boss has offered me to return just for a few hours, I'll be in the depot for w week then a phased put on duty. 

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