Hi all,
I am new here. My husband was diagnosed with kidney cancer in November 2020. His tumour in his right kidney was around 8cm and making him extremely unwell so his consultant said it had to go. He had his kidney removed in January this year. After the kidney was tested, he was told his cancer was rare and aggressive. In February he had a further scan to see if it had spread and of course it had to his lungs and liver with the next course of action to be immunotherapy which he started in February. Although we were coming to terms with everything and trying to shield our 6 year old son from it all, my husband was doing so well, he was eating lots, putting back on the stone and a half he had lost, we really thought things were looking well. In March, he started complaining about his leg but we thought it was muscle ache from the immunotherapy. He had a X-ray and we got told last week, it’s now in his hip. He ended up in hospital for 5 days due to pain in his arm and leg so another CT scan and MRI was done, it’s in the hip and also the arm. Now they want to give him a hip replacement and put a rod in him arm. He is in two minds to get it done, and I understand his reasons but at the moment he has hardly any mobility. It’s just awful to watch.
I feel totally helpless, watching my once very strong husband disappear right in front of my eyes. I don’t know if it’s because I haven’t been able to go to any appointments with him but I didn’t know that his cancer was incurable. I found that out last week and I’ve really struggled.
My husband doesn’t want to know his prognosis in terms of how long he has left and even though I completely understand, I also think it’s important to know.
Has anyone else gone through his, I’m totally at a loss. Just trying to keep it together for my husband and sons sake.
Thanks for reading
