Tiredness, lack of interest or motivation

Doramouse2736a33 said:

Anyone else had this?

Yes and I must say I needed to go at my own pace. Stan recognised this and gave me the space I needed. Perhaps you are pushing too hard? 8 weeks is still very early. 6 months is when most of us feel more like we used to. Recovery can’t be done in weeks. It takes a long time.  Just a thought. I think partners feel the psychological pain as much as us but both have to be patient. 

Hi like Dani says 8 weeks is really early. Radiation fatigue could be starting he needs to listen to his body nap if need be I was v good at 20 min naps.  A gentle walk started out walking between nearest lamp pistols and the next gradually going further and a walk round garden. 
nutrition and hydration is vital tj aid recovery. 
fir 6 months I list my live if reading knitting crochet or gardening. I couldn’t concentrate. We watched a lit if box sets well hubby did I probably took 50% notice we watched all 8 series if game of thrones. Rewatched in a few years later missed lots of it. 
mt hubby was good at giving me space he will get better takes time. I wasn’t depressed just tired treatment takes it out of us. 

hugs Hazel. 

Depression is hard to admit to, I was hit by it, sort of crept up on me during and after treatment, my wife egged me on to do things, cycle, walk, swim, get out into the garden, go to the cinema, eventually I snapped out of it. My CNS was also very good, recognised the signs of depression and encouraged me to help myself.

PTSD still hits me out of the blue...it was/is a very difficult treatment and recovery.

Your GP should be able to arrange meds or counselling...if required.

Thanks everyone. Just typed a long reply and lost it.

we saw ENT today and they reassured him that this is quite normal, and also told him how well he was doing,re healing etc. so he has come away feeling much better. He will be reassured by your answers also. 
Paula

Hi Dani

im not pushing, more his own frustration at not feeling like he wants to do things. I keep reminding how far he has come and that it’s a slow process, but he’s not always patient

Doramouse2736a33 said:

I’m trying to think of ways to help but he’s dismissing most suggestions.

Doramouse2736a33 said:

im not pushing

I’m sorry. I misread your post and I do apologise. I shouldn’t have used that word. 

Hi Paula. I felt very flat and tired for some weeks after finishing radiotherapy. Couldn't see my way forward and thought that life was too hard and got quite despondent.   However things changed over time and I started feeling much more positive after the radiation fatigue improved. I got my energy back and didn't look back after that.I am now back to enjoying life.  It is a process but your husband will get there.

Lyn

No need to apologise Dani, I probably didn’t come across clearly 

Thanks Lyn, it is reassuring for him to see that this is quite normal.

Hi Paula.

Here's another story to maybe bolster your hubby further.

My fella went through a bad time post surgery and RT; utterly disinterested in anything except sleep. I let him do just that, but gently encouraged him to open up about the depression that had clearly gripped hold. I persuaded him to attend a therapy session and it made him feel better, just knowing it wasn't only him that felt so down.

He's over a year out since diagnosis and starting to get things together now. Although he can't speak, due to his surgery, I've devised ways/games to get him back in the swing, and it's a pleasure to see his face light up when he beats me at our music quiz game. I never let him win, honestly, but I want his mind to stay active and alert and it's doing the trick. He's definitely in a better place than he was a few months ago.

Fingers crossed hubby starts finding renewed interest in things he enjoys, and make sure you look after yourself too, as a carer's job is no doddle. Big hugs to you both xxx