42 year old son in law diagnosed with Oesophageal cancer and multiple mets

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I dont know where to start really.  My SIL was diagnosed in July, and despite chemo and immuno has been deteriorating rapidly.  He is struggling so much with the pain in his bones, the cancer has spready through his spine/ribcage and hips, and hes moving around less despite being on over 300 ml of morphine a day plus oxy something the pain is never ending.  Im trying to support my daughter (she is still trying to work full time) but im struggling too.   Seeing the amount of pain he is in is horrific and has  reduced me to tears.  I dont understand the whys and wherefores, and he has now just started radiotherapy which i understand will probably increase the pain even more.  Sorry folks, i feel that i need to offload onto someone, my daughter used to be my listening ear, but at the moment shes got so much on her plate i cant talk to her about this.  I need some answers / input 

  • Elsie, never and I mean NEVER apologise for letting rip on this wonderful forum. Every single one of us in this support group will be empathising with you and your family. My advice? Rant away, day or night, or both! There's always someone on here who will be there for you.

    Much Love to you and yours 

    Anthony x

  • Hi 

    what a dreadful situation for you all,:cancer has no boundaries does it ! but please know that as Anthony says there are always people here with their own stories to tell who will support you also there is a macmillan help line I haven’t used it myself but might be good for you and your daughter to talk to them ! 
    Sending my love and never feel bad about offloading on here 

    Tricia