Hi everyone,
My partner (31) was given a terminal diagnosis at the beginning of January, he has unfortunately had only bad news ever since. Now we are being told chemo is no longer on the table for him and this was the only treatment offered, so he is dealing with the fact this is now as he puts it ‘the beginning of the end’.
He was given 3 months in January so we are now really on borrowed time. He is in a constant state of sickness and pain despite the meds and support from the palliative care team. He’s barely eating a tin of soup a day, so is very weak and frail. He has been in and out of the hospice over the last 2 months but is now at home with me. He doesn’t want to see anyone else apart from me, is not interested in anything as he’s in pain and hates the way he looks.
I’m reaching out to anyone who has experience with how to deal with a partner who (quite understandably) no longer sees the point in living anymore as to live only means to suffer. I want to be able to support him the best way I can, so any experience or advice would be greatly appreciated.
x
Hello Penny
I am so sorry to read this, not only that Chemo is no longer an option, but also the tough decisions and experiences that you are going through as your husband steadly resigns himself to no longer being.
Can I suggest that you give the Macmillan team a call on the phone, using the number in my signature, they will able to offer you a world of experience in how to support your husband whilst also taking care of you.
Being there for your husband every step of the way as you have been is possibly all that you can do, it will be extremely tough on you both, and I hope you will call the team, they are there for you in ways that the forum would not be able to be.
Take care and reach out whenever you need. We are here for you too.
Lowe'
