My dad last Christmas 
was having few problems with backache and little bit indigestion didn't realise that he was losing weight and he was having trouble with some foods he was eating like any men trying to get them to go to the doctors when we managed to get him to go they put him on indigestion medication and tablets but this didn't make any difference still losing weight went back to doctors where they decided to refer him to have a scope down to see whats happening than we had lock down we waited about 3 weeks by this time my dad had lost 3 stone and he was getting worse soup quavers crisp was the only thing he was eating me and my mum and sister were getting really worried about him on the Sunday we had decided that mum was going to ring doctors as prior to ring the doctors we had rang hospital to be told that they closed that procedure in lock down and that he was on the emergency list we had to just wait. So we had decided that mum was phoning doctors on Monday to say how bad our dad had got and all the weight he had lost and we had said that if they don't do anything than we were going to drop my mum and dad off at A & E but lucky from that Monday ring the doctors my dad was in having camera down his throat by Tuesday were they had trouble putting camera down he had obstruction which they took biopsy and was told they would phone him back next week and they didn't know if it was cancers. My mum and dad were called back in to hospital to be told he has stage 4 osphasgus cancer that had spread to his lung lymph nodes and he was waiting for a call from oncologist. We probably waited 2 to 3 weeks by this point my mum was so upset as we had not heard from anyone she thought that they didn't care and they just wanted him to die so I rang my doctors saying what's going on the next day my dad had been booked in for his stent to be done that week and on the Wednesday oncologist called him he was given 6 month to live my dad said he didn't want any other treatment as it was only going to possibly give him 2 more month and treatment was going to make him ill we didn't want that he walks every day his my life dont know what am going to do with out him in my life his my world his 6 month is November were not sure what to expect but we keep going cry when am at home on my own with my husband. We don't hear from any one for support.
Dear Maz123
I am so very sorry to read such a definite time frame being placed on you Dad's OC, you don't mention whether you know which type of tumour you Dad has, but I wanted to tell you to let your Dad know that not everyone gets ill from the treatment, and the types of treatment used now for OC are very different and in some ways less overpowering than in previous years.
My Husband was diagnosed in May, he has secondaries in his lungs, liver and lymph nodes, his diagnosis time frame was, months, or months and months... He has had chemotherapy and immunotherapy and his tumours are shrinking, he condition is not curable, but it is treatable..... This may just take his months and months to years and years....?
We have a blog on here called Facing the Future Together which may offer some insight for your Dad
https://community.macmillan.org.uk/blogs/b/facing-the-future-together
We are here if you need an understanding ear..
Think as positively as you can, stay strong!
Lowe'
