My wonderful husband

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Hi, goodbye, thank you, I wish you all a successful journey. I haven’t been able to come into this forum since my husband passed away in February. He fought bravely for 2 years with this most awful disease surpassing the time expectations of most. Your posts and replies to mine meant so much too me during those 2 awful years. And when the end came it was in both sadness and relief because he was no longer suffering. I’m also relieved he didn’t have to live through this pandemic because he would not have got through. I’ve had fantastic support from friends and family as well as the bereavement councillor from Trinity Hospice who has helped me lose the anger, regret and learn to know it’s ok to be sad and it’s ok to be happy. I really wish everyone of you the very best, stay safe, stay strong and again thank you all.

Carol xx

  • Hi Carol,

    It’s so sad to hear stories like you but thank you for posting and telling us something of your  journey after you man left you. It’s feedback like yours that keep people like me participating in this forum. I once heard that if you could take away 1/60 of someone’s hurt or pain then it is worth doing.

    Grief is so individual but it’s so common to hear that people feel guilty for laughing or being happy after someone close has died but your bereavement counsellor told you it was ok to be sad but equally it is ok to feel happy. I’m sure that helped.

    Best wishes in finding your way in life without your life partner. Happy days will come again and you don’t need to feel any guilt about that.

    Counting the days, making every day count.

    Brent

  • Thanks Brent yours was always a story I followed and your philosophy of making every day count is one that always did and will stay with me thank you  Pray

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    Hi Carol, thanks for taking the time to let us know of your loss, and for sharing your journey since then. I'm glad you did not try to deal with the loss on your own. I'm sure little things will make  happy memories for you when they pop into your head. May you find peace and happiness in the future. Kind regards Frank