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Hi Ade123

Sorry to hear this. I remember being called into a room with my husband after his endoscopy to be told the same news - out of the blue. I wasnt expecting it at all. This was in Nov 2021. It's a huge shock at first and very frightening. Plus you don't have all the information at this stage, so your imagination can run away with you. Try to stay calm.  It may be that it's been caught early. I think they tell you their suspicions to give you some time to process the information but at this stage, nothing is confirmed. Hopefully the tests and scans will happen quickly and you will know more soon. In the meantime, try to maintain as much normality on an every day basis as you can. Talk to people if it helps. Get out in the fresh air and sunshine. I have a new mantra: 'Live in hope, not fear' and I repeat it to myself whenever I feel panic rising. So far, my husband is doing well under treatment and long may this continue. I send you strength and am hoping for the best for you.

M

Thank you so much , still in shock a bit but I’ll get my head round it soon , Macmillan nurse phoned me this morning which helped so much 

Best of all possible luck. I do believe that it does not help to anticipate. You feel the way you feel irrespective of what is going on, so act as you feel (or better).

Deal with the facts when you know them, not before you do. The CT scan may be confirmative or not. I am awaiting the results of a scan just now. Things may be worse, the same, or (possibly) better. All I can do is to act on what I now know, and get on with what I can.

Look up and down this list, and stay in touch.

And, again, best of luck.  

Thank you , it’s all a lot to take in and I’m also trying to navigate round this online community, I’ll get there though

These are wise words DSlippy. The question "What if...?" is best replaced with "What now?" I think someone told me this early on and I am beginning to get better at applying it. Still learning to master it 

M