Suffering with my diagnosis - tumour behind eye, affecting mental health

Can I first offer my sincere sympathy for your tumour diagnosis. To have children in the mix suggests you are comparatively young too which makes everything that more difficult.

This going to read a little glib but as in anything every individual experience has variation and so I suggest there is actually no "right way" to feel about this. If anything it is probably a bit of an emotional "soup" of feelings fighting to have their say in your thoughts.

The trick is I think to accept that those thoughts have a right to a say but not to dominate you. Easy in the typing/reading but it takes some doing. That I suggest needs some help to you from the both medical professionals and those closest to you. It is their fight in some ways too, even though you're the focus.

Express everything you have said here to your medical team and request some form of counselling support would be my suggestion. It isn't so much for the talking as getting ideas for the "tools" to help.

In the interim I can only wish for you and yours the best of outcomes in these circumstances.