Hello All,
I currently work and live in the UK. I went back to Singapore to surprise my parents for their wedding anniversary two weeks ago. Unfortunately, during that time, my dad was admitted into the hospital and a week later, was diagnosed with cancer in his duodenum. After laparoscopy, it was found that due to the location of the tumour, it was not possible to do a subtotal radical gastrectomy. Instead a palliative bypass was completed.
I feel absolutely heartbroken and navigating through my thoughts about how best to resume life being far proximity-wise from my dad. I am feeling all sorts of sadness and guilt, knowing that I would have to resume my life and to leave my dad for another few months (before I come back to visit again).
Hi Amane9ae04e and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community and, although I'm not a member of this group, I noticed that your post hadn't had any replies yet. Responding to you will 'bump' it back to the top of the discussion list again.
It must be very difficult for you living in a different country to your parents while your dad is going through treatment. You might also like to join the family and friends group where you'll connect to other people who have a loved one living with cancer.
If this is something that you'd like to do, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
While you're waiting for replies, it would be great if you could put something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hello Littlemermaid19 Thank you so much for your message.
I definitely will, thank you for the suggestion.
Sending my love to you and your family 
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