Newly diagnosed

Hi Woody14

I’m so sorry you have to be here but welcome.

It’s so awful at the beginning, no wonder you are feeling in a panic, it’s a huge thing to try to process and you need time to get over the initial shock. You will hear often that the waiting for results is the worst part but you will get through and I guarantee you will feel better when you know what you are dealing with and your treatment plan. Forums like this are great to share your worries with people who understand, reach out whenever you need. x

Thank you for replying to me. My head is in an absolute spin. I’ve googled and scared myself to death x

I’m in the same position had the biopsy on Monday night now the long 9 day wait. We should be moving to our dream home but that’s all had the breaks slammed on. I feel like my life is falling apart and I haven’t had the results back yet. I hope you have some support around you. X 

We all know that feeling.You cannot stop thinking and googling but once you get your results, whatever they are, you will be ok. I was imagining all sorts in my head before my results but once I had it confirmed it was early cancer, I felt better than I thought I would. If you find that you do have cancer remember that the statistics for getting over this are really good, better than they have ever been.  Your team will guide you through it and you will always find support on here. Just remember to take deep breaths and know that we all feel that utter panic and devastation at the beginning but the journey is not as scary once you start treatment. Good luck and keep us posted on your progress.

Just wanted to pop in with a big hug. Waiting is definitely the pits, you’re in a horrible limbo land and all certainty seems to have disappeared. Don’t Google!! So much out there is out of date or just wrong. And most of it will probably never apply to you anyway.
Somehow the time will pass until you get the results, and once you have more idea what you’re dealing with, you really will feel more like you can cope. Keep posting here, share your anxieties, ask any questions, none are silly here. There’s great support on this site and hopefully you’ll feel that. Sending love and a big virtual hug to anyone who needs one! HFxx

Hey Woody, 

I too am awaiting results from a biopsy done on Tuesday, I get the results a week tomorrow. The waiting is already proving to be horrendous.

My consultant didn't say that I had cancer but did comment on the irregular shape of the mass on my ultrasound and said that it could be cancer so I'm clinging to the fact it isn't (mostly!). 

I'm sure you are like me imagining all sorts of scenarios and I'm hoping that we can get some lovely advice on how to deal with the wait. 

Chin up ️

It may sound like a cliche but being busy is key. Work, pottering in the house, painting, reading, it doesn’t matter what so long as your mind is at least partially on something else. Try to keep up with any physical activity/exercise you do, that’ll keep you fit and will aid your recovery from any treatments as well as really helping mentally. A journal is also great. Not an appointment type one, a writing down your worries, swearing if you want and letting it all out there type one. I used one from diagnosis to recovery and it really helped. x 

Hi Woody,

I got my biopsy results on Tuesday this week and count that as my day 1 so you and I are in the same journey now. I live in the South East and due to lack of resources I waited 4 weeks so now I am panicking too as although there was no node activity when they did Mamo, Ultrasound and biopsy that was almost 5 weeks ago now and I have another 2-3 weeks to wait until I meet my team and get things underway. Don’t know about you but just now I just want this thing out of me. I am here if you want to talk and perhaps we can cheer each other on Just try to breathe and don’t lie in bed awake with your mind going down a black hole I get up and watch Christmas movies LOL each of us has their way to get through the hard times I think happy to share some of mine. Take care breathe and know that today you are ok and after all that is all anyone can control

Dear Dogwomwn; I am with you there! We had house on the market and had 7viewings but this Tuesday that all had to stop house taken off the market the same day. I waited 4 weeks for my biopsy results and now terrified awaiting the actual start of all of this I have Invasive Lobular Breast Cancer so need a special MRI with a ‘Madonna 1990s’ pointy bra on I laugh thinking about it and then realise my and go to my dark place so trying to stay positive and busy. By your name I am thinking you too must have a pooch mine is called Lincoln. Hope I am right as that helps too; taking him for a walk twice a day keeps me calm and busy and I can tell him anything rather than freaking my hubby out. Hope you find you’re calm and that things are not as bad as you fear. They call us warriors and you too now so let’s show them how strong we can be

Thank you so much for your reply. Yes I have 3 dogs who have been a big help in keeping me calm. Doesn’t help that I was diagnosed as Bipolar 2 in January, 2024 is not my year. 
I need to try and keep stress to a minimum which is a bit of a challenge at the moment. I am using night nurse so I get a full nights sleep which my consultant has recommended. I am very lucky as I have Bupa cover and they have been amazing. This is definitely the longest 9 days of my life. I can’t imagine how people cope with a much longer wait. Best of luck with your battle x