Utterly Overwhelmed

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Hi. I'm new to this group and hoping to learn a lot from your experiences.

I'm in my thirties, recently diagnosed with invasive carcinoma with mucinous features in the right breast. A shock to my system! Tumor is more than 3cm, and I'm just under a B cup size. I'm grappling with the decision to make on the way forward. 

(1) lumpectomy with sentinel lymph node biopsy, followed by radiation, oncotype DX test and hormone therapy. This will leave a scar across my boob and require potential fat graph given that the right boob will be smaller and look oblong to the left because of the size of the tumor relative to cup size. If more cancer is found in the safety margin I'm told a second excision may be necessary. This will leave me with very little tissue and a much smaller right boob which may lead to mastectomy after all that

(2) single mastectomy with expander whilst radiation is administered, if required after sentinel lymph node biopsy. Wait approx 6 months to insert implant. Risk here the left boob will eventually grow naturally and sag against a perky one. Risk of recurrence in the left especially if BRCA gene positive

(3) double mastectomy. With much of the same above except less risk of recurrence and more chance of symmetrical boobs. Trouble is how do you deal with no feeling or sensation - having a prosthetic chest as a woman 

I'm advised that the treatment that follows is all dependent on the choice I make now. I have initiated a BRCA gene test and waiting for those results. PET CT showed no spread. 

Any advice on how you made a decision or to help me make mine. I feel utterly overwhelmed and confused. I'm quite fed up of being invaded, touched, poked and prodded already and I haven't even begun my treatment! 

  • I didn't have this choice mine was more straightforward and I'm 40 yrs older than you. It's a tough one and hard when feeling scared as we all are at this stage. Sorry you are here if course, I'm sure someone will respond who has maybe had a similar decision. 

    I had total node node removal in lt axilla and wide excision lumpectomy. Oncotype DX said chemo not needed. Radiotherapy then Letrozole for me. Were you given any idea of what stage and grade or are you just waiting for results before deciding? I've got used to living with it now, maybe that's the key thing, what preserves life the best. Some have implants, some have prosthesis in the bra. At your age it's harder of course. 

    Purple heartPray

  • Thank you  for your thoughtful response and I'm sorry you've had to deal with this nasty disease too. It is indeed frustrating. I have been diagnosed as Stage 2, Grade 2. If I knew which route to take I would make the decision today to try to get my life back on track, having all these options has been a blessing and a curse

  • Good morning, 

    I'm sorry you're dealing with this at a young age. I was 54 at diagnosis,  in 2019. Mine was grade 3, aggressive,  I needed chemo, surgery, radiotherapy and a year of herceptin injections. I had a large area of breast removed and reduced on the other side to balance things. Being a D cup it was the best way. I also had full lymph clearance as it had spread to my axilla. I told the surgeon to basically do what they deemed necessary as I wanted it gone. My boob isn't pretty but who cares, I'm alive abd I see it as a massive achievement to get thru this terrible experience.  

    You have to do what's not only right for you but balance it with getting rid of the cancer and being able to move forward.

    Hope this helps, 

    Julie x

    Charlieandlola
  • My consultant shared a research paper with me which I found very helpful. It showed that breast conserving surgery and radiotherapy had the best long term survival rates in cases like mine (that was my main priority, I’m older than you, and decided I can address what in my case is a large size difference once the treatment is over) 

    The paper is quite technical, if you want to read it it’s available here https://journals.lww.com/aosopen/Fulltext/2022/12000/Breast_Conserving_Surgery_or_Mastectomy___Impact.6.aspx

    It might be worth discussing it with your consultant to see if he thinks the findings are relevant to your particular circumstances? (research is one area where my breast care nurse wasn’t much help) 

  • Thank you  Getting rid of the cancer is definitely priority. And yes, you have a massive achievement to be proud of. I salute you all. I hope to come to decisiveness soon. 

  • I will definitely give this a read and refer it to my team! Thank you

  • I was the same in grade and stage as you. It's horrible being in this quandary. One you know which way to go, you will feel better. X