Dealing with Diagnosis

Hi Loveflies; I'm sorry you find yourself here - a cancer diagnosis does indeed pull the rug from under you.  It does time time to get your head around, and you will have ups and downs.  You may not believe it, but you will feel a little better once you have a plan, and dates, in place.

Best wishes

What a nasty scary shock, I feel for you.You are so young. Do ask if you can have your eggs frozen . Ring and speak to one of the Macmillan nurses, they are very supportive. At my hospital they have an office and you can just go in and speak to them.  Good luck. It's a nasty journey but not in surmountable xx

So sorry you are facing this. Once you start your treatment you will feel better. The waiting is agony and no easy way to cope.Many of us had sleepless nights. You will have good days and bad days so I would just go with the flow. I just had lumpectomy and radiotherapy so can’t advise you on chemo. It will be hard but try and look on it as a journey and you are making your way to the finish line. Don’t hold the tears in, better to let your emotions out. You will get through this. We are all on the cancer journey and will all be here with you.  Good luck!

Evajean x

Hi Sapphire. Thank you for your message, I really appreciate and feel what you have said. I’m such a control freak and hate change so, as you say, once there’s a visible plan and timeline…it is something to focus on then isn’t it x

Hi Rozalia. Thank you for your message and kind words. It has been mentioned to me about having eggs frozen, and something I am considering. I’m not sure if there’s a MacMillan office at my hospital but I will find out x

Thank you for those kind words Evajean, they mean so much. It certainly is the unknown that is the scariest part. It’s already helping a little to connect with others who have an understanding, I appreciate it x

1. Hi Loveflies, sorry that you have breast cancer and it is a real kick in the gut when you first hear it.  The emotional toll is very hard especially at first when you are up in the air about everything except the diagnosis. Sometimes you just feel alone even though there are people supporting you.  Also I think because you are young there are other things that worry you too like should I freeze my eggs etc. or not.  You will work it all out and the docs will help you too.  Just be easy on yourself and take it from me that all my worrying didn’t help me .  Seemed once I made the decision what I wanted for surgery it got easier.  
   Barbara

Thank you Barbara. You’re right it’s very easy to feel alone even when there’s someone sat next to you. It’s nice to not feel so alone in my feelings on here x

Hello Loveflies, sorry to hear your diagnosis. I was diagnosed 4 weeks ago, my BC was picked up on a recent mammogram.

I’m having a wide local excision on the 1st December, radiotherapy will follow in the New Year. It’s a lot to take on board and I had the same reaction as you. Take one day at a time, once you know your treatment plan things will seem a whole lot easier. Speak to your GP or one of the nurses on here about any future pregnancy. This site is so helpful and you may even come across other women your age and with similar problems.

Wishing you all the luck in the world on your journey. Stay strong, you can beat this xx 

It's such a shock isn't it. I couldn't believe it at all, especially in those early weeks, and I would wake up with a jolt remembering I had cancer. You're in the early stages of this journey, and there is a lot to get your head around. Getting support is crucial. You're here, so that's great, and it sounds like you have a good support network. There will be good days, bad days, and everything in between. Hyperfixating is completely understandable. This is a huge deal. There's a lot to process. Keep talking, and do whatever it takes to keep you going. I spent a lot of time mindlessly scrolling on my phone. It wasn't the healthiest, but it felt like the mental equivalent of treading water whilst I tried to understand what was going on. I found physical exercise helped when my anxiety got too much. Be gentle with yourself. This is a scary time.