Mastectomy tomorrow so scared

Ladies (and gents if your reading) we have unfortunately joined this very exclusive club that noone wants to be part of...i really do think of all of you that take the time to read and reply as special and if by sharing my experience no matter how good or bad it may be of some help or reassurance (as we will all have different experiences) then im glad of that. Know that this has been both a scary and exellent support for me in some of my darkest times  xx we will get through, one day at a time....as i say 'short term gain for long term gain' xx

DianeW i know you may find this hard at the moment (as i did) but it will be over before you know it, you are no doubt scared but it really is like we all say anticipation of the op is worse than the actual op itself..and its one step closer...give me shout if you want to chat, shout or even if you have any questions i will help where i can x

Spider Rose as i said to Dianew i know you may find this hard at the moment (as i did) but it will be over before you know it, you are no doubt scared but it really is like we all say anticipation of the op is worse than the actual op itself..and its one step closer...give me shout if you want to chat, shout or even if you have any questions i will help where i can x

Thank you Lorraine058 x

Thank you so much. 

I keep thinking this time next week it’ll all be over but it’s the anticipation of the pain and discomfort afterwards and managing. I’m trying to remain positive though and looking towards a brighter future x

Dianew i am one of the worlds worst patients! I know im only 8 days in but at the moment the pain believe it or not is nothing compared to the pain im having from a swollen arm i currently have..the drains were fine more of an inconvenience than anything else it was a little uncomfortable having them out yesterday. You got this and as you say one step closer...xx

All of this is a balance, you’ve been diagnosed and now are on the journey to resolve that! The operation is not difficult, lymph removal isn’t either….but both leave you in a very different place. It isn’t easy, but it does get easier! You will look and feel different but in the short term appreciate that you are removing the cancer.

Long term, everyone is different….I don’t mind being flat but wish I had pushed to have both breasts removed…i get annoyed that I am numb under and down my arm

 Am I well? Yes!  And after 2 caesarean births, a breast removal, lymph node removal and ovary removal…..i look like I have been in a knife fight! 

Try to believe that it will get better…life is tough now….but it does improve, you start to heal…but please give yourself time….and plenty of it! 

Hi Lorraine058 et all,

Thank you for this conversation thread. I have left side mastectomy and lymphnode removal booked on week Tuesday and am getting really nervous and scared. And like you say, apprehensive about the healing and other effects after. But reading this has definitely helped. I've got to remain positive and I know I can reach out on here if I need to.

Best of luck to everyone going through or involved in this situation, it really isn't easy for anyone,  loved ones included. 

I'll be back here to update and request advice, 

Take care xx 

Good luck I had the same as you last November except right side. Exercises are key once able. I still do them. If I can do this you can my friend. It is all progress to getting rid of it. Take care x

• Hi mar42 im glad you have found this useful I am trying to post as much information regarding my experience as possible.  I know that being an awful patient myself and just the very nature of what we are dealing with is difficult enough and whilst i appreciate all experiences may differ there will be alot of information out there for us! Good luck for your op not tho you will need it...and i know the time between now and then is difficult but please shout out of you need to...there really is plenty of support for us all xx