Am I just weird?

Welcome fellow weirdo

Cancer is a real dirty word to some isn't it? I feel like shouting it from the rooftops to desensitise it for people.

You would have thought someone who'd been there would have been more supportive. My friends who've come out the other side are the best.

One friend said I'll see you when it's all over then - I replied See you at Christmas.

Very odd! 

Cx

Yes I’m beginning to think you are right. I just pressed flag by mistake oops. Moderator all is good here honestly xx

Let's just do our weird thing and forget the normal ones.

Yes all good here Mr Moderator haha.

Cx

Agreed. Weird is our new normal xx

Definitely. Have a good day lovely weirdo

Cx

Hi you, totally not weird at all. I’ve realised there just isn’t a normal in this Cancer world, it is such a scary word, even to me and I have it! You will be told over and over how strong, brave and resilient you are but in reality there isn’t a choice, we are digging deep and finding a way like anyone would because there nothing quite like a cancer diagnosis to make you appreciate life.

If you cry then let it come, if not don’t force it. Mostly I think we are in shock but determined and that keeps us going.

Personally I dropped out the news bit by bit when felt ready and the reactions are definitely bizarre but just can’t blame anyone, what do you say! The three reactions that upset me are 1) telling me about xyz that had breast cancer and died 2) unloading some personal trauma about their own lives, a sort of levelling up need 3) minimising by telling me how lucky I am there’s so much funding, luckily I probably won’t die theses days or a weird positive vibes ‘you got this’ take!

Sharing on here also really helps when you can’t tell people as we all TOTALLY get it xxx

Hi Kate 

That's a fantastic reply thank you. Feel free to join our weirdo club. Having my first real low day after starting chemo on Friday and you've made me feel so much better.

I know what you mean about all the comments, we have to be brave and strong, what's the alternative?

Your worst comments are worse than mine though - real doozies

You look after yourself and thanks again.

Cx

How you doing fellow weirdo? 

Cx

Hi, I think the main thing is to be how you feel and resist (I know it's hard) making comparisons. We all react in different ways. Sometimes we instinctively shut off feelings temporarily in order to get through something - (I call it going into my tunnel when it happens to me) - and when it feels safe and right, emotions catch up.  Being aware of them is what's important and then letting them come without censoring.  Hope that helps and my best wishes for your journey.

Totally agree that people soon lose interest and stop asking. Sometimes feel that no one else really gets it or has true intentions- just platitudes as you say. There’s an awful lot of self care, wellbeing and mental health stuff around and if ever mental health and wellbeing raises an issue, a cancer diagnosis will do it, no matter how “treatable”. Just my own experience and we are all different. X