Am I just weird?

Hi, you’re not weird.

People process things in different ways and it’s ok if you haven’t cried. It’s also ok to be scared - I am too. I’ve been the opposite normally I don’t cry and now I cry at the drop of a hat! I don’t think there’s any “right” way. What I would say is that talking about it to trusted people and some friends who’ve been through it has been so helpful. I’m also a person of Christian faith so praying is helping too.

in terms of telling people - I think its up to you how and who you tell. At first I found it quite traumatic but after telling some close family and friends it helped make it more real and manageable for me. I then asked some colleagues, family and friends to let others know on my behalf as I only had so much capacity, 

this forum and MacMillan are a great source of help. They also have people to talk to if that’s something you’d like. 

 I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. 

hope that helps.

Thank you. That all sounds like good advice. I do talk to God to and my faith has always been there

You're not weird at all or I am too! I used to cry at everything but I've not cried about this since I was first diagnosed. Everyone says I'm being incredibly strong but I just think it's normal.

I don't mind telling people but I find people react in strange ways and I hate the pity and sad faces.

Good look and do things your way

Cx

Thanks Carolyn. I just have no idea how to feel about this. I suppose I just have to take it as it comes. 
yes it’s the pity and platitudes that make me uncomfortable xx

I totally get this. I cried when I had the call back from the mammogram but not since. I have been really open about what is happening to me but I don’t like fuss so it’s been tricky because people want to help and be kind. I have stuck to the facts when I tell people and focus on how early and treatable DCIS is. 
it’s a journey to be sure and we have to get through it however we can. No right or wrongs in this. 

xxxxx

I feel the same! I keep thinking I must be numb or something and the bomb will drop eventually. But it hasn't yet and I'm 3 months in so I just get on with it.

I hate that and the looks and the patting of your arm. I can cope with having cancer why can't everyone else?

Keep at it love, we'll be weird together!

Cx

Yes I’m with you on all of that. Do you not find though that once you say they think it’s non invasive and the outcome it good that people then switch off from you and the messages you were getting om them making you laugh and supporting you just stop

You're absolutely right!! We just have to do what works for us. I hate all the fussing - I do like the flowers and chocolates though

You also find out who your true friends are don't you? I find people's reactions really interesting.

Cx

Carolyn I am happy to be a member of the weird club. People really can’t cope with the Cancer word can they! But one school friend who fought and won over ovarian cancer said I wish you the best of luck and I have heard nothing since I replied? I think the whole world is weird x

I haven't really gone into details as mine is invasive so I'm still getting some messages but not as many. People soon get bored with cancer.

A couple of friends have dropped me like a stone. Maybe they think it's catching

I'm becoming a bit of a recluse though as the pitying looks do my head in. I hate to think what it'll be like when I lose my hair

We're normal - it's the rest of them that are weird!! 

Cx