New and struggling with recent diagnosis

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Hi, I’m new here and really not sure what to say etc so here’s some info-following a routine mammogram in April I was recalled and to cut a long story short I was diagnosed with er &pr positive and her2 negative breast cancer on the 3rd of June. This has come as a huge shock and I have struggled ever since to get my head around it and the longer this went on without a plan the lower my mood became. It doesn’t help either that I had to stop my HRT. Finally yesterday I had an appointment with the consultant to discuss my options now that all scans and testing is complete. it’s been a long 8 weeks and I just can’t stop feeling that my life is never going to be the same again. I am also not good at all in asking for any support. I just don’t want to be a burden on anyone and I’m normally very resilient but I feel

anything but currently. I also live alone. I will be having a wide local excision and an ALCAP flap as well as a sentinel lymph node biopsy soon and I have been prescribed Letrazole for 5 years. I will also be having radiotherapy later in the year. At what point do people start to accept what has happened? I am struggling to do anything and am currently off sick from work, a job I normally really enjoy. I just don’t feel like I have anything to offer and am struggling to see anything past having cancer. :( does it get any easier?

Hat 6 minutes ago

Hello Jane your reaction is perfectly normal and I’m sure everyone who has joined this group has felt the same as you at one time or another . I was diagnosed in March after a mammogram . I had no symptoms at all and the diagnosis came as a huge shock . I had a wide local excision and sentinel node biopsy in May and I was very lucky in that the cancer hadn’t reached the lymph nodes . I am starting radiotherapy within the next two weeks and then Letrozole after that . The word cancer does put the fear of god into you when you first hear it but as your treatment gets under way you will find that what’s in your head isn’t as bad as you think . As for not having anything to offer , you are still you and the cancer doesn’t change the essence of that . Be kind to yourself and if you feel like wallowing in self pity for a while well just do it ! It does get easier and I’m sure you will find yourself again . Sending you a big hug x

LindaMM 3 minutes ago

Hello, I'm 77 and was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in June & had a lumpectomy and sentinel node removal last Thursday. I am recovering well, minimal pain just soreness in the two sites. I'm really looking forward to my first shower in 3 days and stocking removal in 6 days - I'm counting down. I am totally accepting of my diagnosis and quite frankly relieved that the tumour was found and initial treatment has gone ahead. One in 2 of us gets cancer so I refuse to be a 'why me?', I'm more let's press on with the radiotherapy. Best wishes to you fir your journey. Linda MM

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