Journey beginning help

Hi Harleybear and so sorry about your diagnosis.  It's great you've found us though because there are so many wonderful and supportive people on this site.

You are at the absolute worst part of this journey, waiting for tests and results is extraordinarily stressful but you will start to feel better once you get your treatment plan.

The biopsy does leave you with a tender breast, you've just had a big needle plunged into your breast and a sample of tissue was removed so it can definitely be left feeling sore and bruised, how much varies from person to person.

I wouldn't get bogged down in the types of breast cancer at this point you just need to know your type as that helps your doctor determine your treatment plan.  Click HERE  to read about types of breast cancer on the MacMillan website.  Please don't start searching the internet as a lot of information on their is outdated or wrong.  Stick to well known reputable sites like MacMillan and the NHS.

You are strong enough to do this especially with the support of everyone on here.  Breast cancer is very treatable these days with very high success rates.

Take it one day at a time and once you have your treatment plan you will feel a lot better. x

Thank you so much .  It is all very overwhelming right now .     Your comments are reassuring , which I guess is what a lot of this journey is going to be about , seeking reassurance at the darkest of times .  

So sorry you find yourself here, I agree with godwilling, don’t start looking at all the different kinds, there are so many types and varieties and you just don’t know yet what you’re dealing with. Hard as it is save your research for when you know what your BC is. This waiting part is the hardest bit, yes my breast was tender for a while after the biopsy so that’s normal. As is your mind running away with you but somehow you will get through, one day at a time xx

Hi, I started my journey in Feb this year, like you I was devastated. These things happen to other people not me.

I have received such great support here.

Everyone says the same, the waiting is the worst.

You may feel at the moment it's all too much. Remember you are not alone. We have been where you are now.

Take each day as it comes. You cannot change where you are now. The doctors can, accept that they are looking after you, I know it's hard.

Use the Macmillan line to talk to someone, it helps.

You can get thru this with support. We are all here for you. 

Helen Xxxx

Lots of hugs you are not alonexx

Hi, I am at the same stage as you.  I am going for my biopsy results next Thursday.  Everything you have said, I feel.  I haven't told my family or kids yet as I want to wait until I get my bopsy results and have a plan of action.  I have banned myself from google as it does not help me one bit. I am keeping myself busy to occupy my mind.  This group is so suppprtive and you are strong enough, this is what I keep telling myself.

Take care x

Thanks , I think you are right I need to stop looking .   

Thankyou , hope things are going ok for you . 

I get my final results on Thursday as well .   It is my birthday too , not quite the gift I was expecting !   I have told my family however, and glad I did .   I wasn’t prepared for the reaction from my partner and Dad who both cried .    I am glad to have found this group , I feel less alone , but at the same time it’s a group you never want to be part of.    It is reassuring knowing you and many others are feeling what I am .  Take care and I hope all goes well Thursday xx

Hi Mel 

Look after yourself best wishes for Thursday my diagnosis was a few months ago had surgery and waiting for next step Oncotype results. It's been 3 weeks so hopefully soon . It's a good idea to ban yourself from Google it's full of clap trap and out dated statistics. Like God willing said cancer very treatable these days . And it might not even be cancer. The early days are the worst  you and Harleybear are at the most difficult part ,the waiting for results.  Like Harleybear my mental health has not been  the best but it's all related to my cancer diagnosis and as I slowly start to recover I'm getting back on track . I'm 6 weeks out from a double mastectomy and have started swimming. This has been an achievement for me at 64. The younger people on here would have been back up and been far more active than me!  Nevertheless, I'm doing ok and not all my days are consumed with my cancer and if I'm going to be ok . I suppose that is my growing confidence that I'm probably going to be ok. You will get to this stage I'm sure, as others say you are now in the most difficult part of all this. You will have a plan soon and that will help take care

Jayne X 

Hello Jayne , I just want this lump removed ASAP , be more than happy for them to take my whole breast .    How did you get through the appointment telling you what type and what stage , I am truly terrified they are going to tell me it is stage 4 .   Then it will feel like game over . I am not strong enough to cope with this . On top of that I am a real baby when it comes to anything medical.  With the rules the way they are I am likely to be alone in hospital xx