Am I alone in wondering why people say the most ridiculous things to me in an attempt to empathise maybe or be helpful? How do you cope with it? From lectures on dropping dairy, turmeric curing me, friends who sailed through chemo because they were ‘ strong’ , all that warrior language irritates me, you’re the strongest person I know you’ll kick it’s arse, you need to be brave, only strong minded people get through this. Oh you’ve had to shave your head? Shame you could’ve saved it, not likely it was coming out in chunks, at least you’ll get ready quicker, less time in the shower, great to be signed off work in the summer though! My aunt/friend/work colleague had it and tried xyz, they were amazing, they died sadly!!!! I could go on on but recently my patience is wearing thin and my smile and words of thanks are slipping somewhat. A friend texted me and said don’t worry you’ll be fine and I could help it, asked for a look in her crystal ball!!
How do others cope with it? My default is humour but it’s running out!!!!
Honestly! That’s up there with you never get more in life than you can cope with isn’t it! Filter people filter!!! X
Greencyclist that's a few more years than my brother would have if he made such crass comments to me 
Years ago when my Mother in law died suddenly my sister and hubby visited to offer condolences and her hubby's comment to my hubby was "well we are all orphans now"
How are you feeling about your diagnosis. Do you have a treatment plan yet?
About my diagnosis, ’m excited if you can call it that. Certainly it’s better than not knowing and twiddling my fingers. I have a provisional date for surgery on 17th August, so I can now start getting over this hurdle and into recovery! Surgery, chemotherapy radiotherapy and hormone treatment I’ll need it all. Consultant is fabulous and the only married man to gab a feel of my boobies 
I’ve been referred to Oncology and now it’s just a case of getting MRI done, let the team have their a multidisciplinary meeting. I’ve already got my hospital bag packed!
As the Macmillan nurse said it will change you as a person, it made me smile, When my partner died in 1984 of cancer, that changed me. I was just out of my teens. Certainly I became more empathetic, and had more compassion for life around me. I wanted to live to the full, sod responsibility and boredom, so packed a bag and I went to Greece to bum around the islands for a couple of weeks, came back home 28 years later! Having worked in various places along the way. I wonder now what will I do after all this? Some serious adventures and bucket lists are waiting, I’m just not sure what yet.
️️️ there’s new adventures to come definitely, I’m planning mine too, saving for the biggest and best holiday I can with my lovely girl xx
