Hi there!
It's been quite some time since I've been here. Apologies if this isn't in the right place....
I was diagnosed in 2016 aged 37, TN. Chemo, zoladex, surgery wle + nodes and radio. All clear end of 2016. Coming up to my 5 year in September.
My periods returned 8 months after last chemo and were regular for a year or more. Then they started getting irregular. I'd miss one. Then they'd be ok for three or four months, then I'd miss two.... I'm now almost one year without a period and tests show menopausal. I'm 42.
I have a little girl, now 6. I'm single. I had it in my mind that I would wait for the 5 years to pass and single or not I'd figure out trying for a baby. I'm devastated.
It's really odd because I'd come to terms with the fact I might not have more children. But with my periods returning it gave me hope. I've been totally blind sided by this. I also feel really let down but I'm not totally sure why.
I approached my doctor once my periods did return to discuss checking my fertility. She dismissed me saying I wouldn't get help because I had a child and that I should be happy cancer was over with and go live my life.
I also feel that discussing fertility and doing checks at some point after cancer should be the norm. I didn't get to freeze any eggs prior because we didn't have time.
I don't even know what I'm asking. I just feel so sad and it's rubbish because it's my 5 year.
Xx
Hi
I'm really sorry to hear how you're feeling at the moment. I haven't been in the same position as you but I can understand how upset you might feel discovering that it's no longer possible to have a child.
I think unless you've had cancer then you don't know how unhelpful it is for someone to tell you " that I should be happy cancer was over with and go live my life".
You might find joining the life after cancer group useful as it's a safe space to discuss things like the physical and emotional after effects of cancer. If this is something that you'd like to do just click on the link I've created and then join and post in the same way as you did here.
If you feel that you'd like to talk through how you feel with someone then I can recommend giving the Macmillan Support Line a call on 0808 808 0000. It's free to call and they're available every day from 8am to 8pm.
Sending a virtual ((hug))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
