New diagnosis

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hi all

Apologies if this has posted twice. I seem to keep losing connection! This is a follow up to my post a few days ago, I got my biopsy results today.

. I have invasive ductal breast cancer. I don’t have a stage until after my sentinel node biopsy which will be done on Friday along with my lumpectomy. Although it’s fairly aggressive it will hopefully only require radiotherapy or chemo if the lymph nodes are affected. More waiting. I am so aware that I am very lucky and I feel like a fraud worrying or complaining. Mine isn’t really bad and others have far worse. I can’t believe how fast everything is happening. I am scared of what I will look like after my surgery. I feel selfish worrying about that when my family are so upset and don’t care about my boobs...they just want me alive! I don’t want to cry or show it’s bothering me but I am worried about feeling unattractive or losing libido...I just got married in December. I just need somewhere to air my worries....xxx

HappyFeet1 over 4 years ago

Hi , your diagnosis sounds similar to mine. Like you, I kept telling myself (and everyone else) that I was very lucky in that it had been caught early and was small. And it’s true that these are positive aspects. But never apologise or feel like a fraud just because there are others with worse. We are absolutely not lucky that we got cancer in the first place!!! And that we have to have treatments which change us!!!! So don’t beat yourself up for feelings that are totally justified and are, in the end, your feelings so shouldn’t be denied. The glory of this forum is that you can express yourself freely and people here will understand.
Sending love and a big virtual hug your way. It’s a horrible stage, waiting for ops and results, somehow I felt better once treatment got started. HFxxxx

HappyFeet1 xx

Don’t be afraid to cry. It will free your mind of sorrowful thoughts. – Hopi

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