Urgent referral

Hi, hopefully you will get seen quickly and you will know what you are dealing with. They do a consultation, mammogram, ultrasound and a further consultation  at your first appointment and can usually give a pretty good indication there and then.  I only told my partner and my brother at first and no one else until after my surgery. Even work didn't know until my 2nd surgery. My sick notes were very vague lol. I can say though that everyone involved was amazing and I got great care.  I hope you find out pretty soon, one way or another, and fingers crossed it is ok.   There is a lot of support on here, so reach out xx

It's the waiting that can be scary. Personally I would gently suggest telling even one person who can support you. I hope that you don't have too long to wait 

Thank you so much. I hope everything is going well for you. X

Thank you. It’s horrible waiting. Not sure I can handle two weeks of this. 
not sure how to tell my husband. I don’t want to worry him. 

Hi - it is difficult telling people you love but I always think about how I would feel if they didn’t tell me something similar, and finding out afterwards they had struggled for two weeks with so much anxiety and that I hadn’t been able to support them. It’s also hard because you don’t want to bring (hopefully unnecessary) anxiety but this is very tough to navigate alone. Hope that makes sense. Good luck with deciding. This group has your back too Xx

Thsnkbyou Im just waiting for the results from my first follow up mammogram-its been a year since the start of my journey. All appears well, energy levels are back and I feel good. So fingers crossed x

Hi, sorry you find yourself here, but also glad that you have found us and are already getting some great advice and support.  I'm one of the champions here in this group and I wanted to say hi.

I also wanted to share my view on telling people.  I had my urgent referral and told my husband I had to get a lump checked out but I wasn't at all worried and I went to the appointment on my own, assuming it would be a cyst or something.  Big mistake!  2 hours later I came out having had a mammogram, ultrasound and biopsy and pretty sure I had some form of cancer and I have no idea how I drove myself home.  Learning from my own experience, I wish I’d had someone with me.

We are all different and cope in different ways, but I wanted to share as I regret being so blasé about it at first.  

Good luck and best wishes 

Thank you. 
yeah I think I’ll have to tell him. 

I got my appt through yesterday and it’s not for another 5 weeks! I’m going to go crazy! 

that doesn’t sound normal does it?

Hi LalaDee

Welcome to the forum, I'm Daisy53 another one of the Community Champions on this forum. I'm sorry to hear that you may have breast cancer.  Most lumps turn out to be benign but if it is cancer it will be treatable. 

Five weeks does seem like a long time for an urgent referral, they usually try to see you within two weeks.  If you feel you feel up to it why not give them a ring and ask if they can see you any sooner.  If not ask them to put you on the list for the first available cancellaton.

Best of luck with your appointment when you have it.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Thank you Daisy. 
I’ve now spoken to my husband. He was calm but worried. But I feel better for telling him. 
he has private healthcare for the family as part of his work benefits so we think we’ll see what our options are there, if not will try get on a cancellation list. 

thank you so much for everyone who has responded. 
x