Adjusting after a mastectomy

Hi PNi

Welcome to the forum, I'm Daisy53 one of the Community Champions on this forum.  I'm sorry to hear that you needed a mastectomy.  When you feel up to it why not tell us a little bit about yourself and your journey as it helps us to give you any help that you may need.

Best wishes

Daisy53

I was diagnosed with invasive mammary ductal carcinoma stage 2. I decided to do a mastectomy which i thought was the best option. After doing so i realise im not coping as i should, i do not feel relief ,i feel lost . I dont even have the courage to continue fighting ,all i do is blame myself that i made the decision out of fear . I have a 8 year old daughter and sometimes i dont feel i can do this and i feel im hurting her and not being fare. I believe i robbed myself of the oppotunity to fight with a little comfort and all my parts intact. I know there is nothing i can do now and thats the fear thats killing me ....i feel if i do not survive, its the surgery and not the disease. 

I think even if i did an immediate reconstruction it would make the psychological impact less but i didnt make that choice either ...now its just regret that has taken my appetite and fight 

Hi PNi

Try not to blame yourself. You took what you thought was the best decision - the surgeon wouldn’t have done the operation if they didn’t think it was a sensible course of action.

Do talk to your Breast Cancer nurse. I didn’t have a mastectomy but I can completely understand the shock you are feeling.

There are lots of ladies on here who have had a mastectomy and can give you advice on how to rebuild your confidence. I am sure your daughter just loves her mum and wants her to feel better

Wishing you a speedy recovery

Yes she does, thank you much