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Yes, my cancer has already spread so surgery is not an option.  I have started treatment in tablet form. I don't really feel ill. Only side effect is hot flushes and fatigue so don't look or feel ill. It's strange. They have told me it's incurable.

So sorry to hear this.  I hope that the treatment has a positive effect.   I don't have the intelligence or mental capacity to understand how this disease works.  I really hope that your cancer is "manageable " and that you continue to feel well.

Thank. Sounds like your on the up. It's hard understanding what you can't see or feel. We can have years to make memories with our loved ones. We have been given the gift to appreciate time.

It is a gift.   Quality time is priceless. 

I never felt ill at all, just a bit sore after my surgeries, and really  tired for a while after radiotherapy, but that gradually decreased.

That's really good to hear

Hi Claracluck  

I never felt physically unwell so I can understand this. It doesn’t really seem to make sense to have an operation when you feel fine. I have also thought about how there can be an expectation to feel a certain way when the word “cancer” is involved. My view is, if you don’t really feel like you’ve had it then that’s great as that suggests it isn’t causing huge amounts of distress. However you feel is perfectly valid and doesn’t necessarily mean you are in denial. x