Starting chemo soon

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Hi friends Two hearts

I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer on my left side, HER2 positive, grade 2. In a few days I will start chemotherapy with Docetaxel and Carboplatin for 6 months.and then mastectomy and then chemo again 

I’m 41 years old and I have three school-aged children, all with additional needs.

My husband says that before my chemo starts, we should take the kids out of school and homeschool them to reduce the risk of infections for me. Honestly, this makes me upset, because I don’t want my illness to harm my children’s education.

I’d love to hear from your experiences: do you think my husband is being reasonable, or not? Tulip

  • Hi Nafas96fef5

    Sorry to hear about your diagnosis.  I really don't think that you should take your children out of school.  Cancer itself changes things so much that it is important to try and keep things as normal as possible.  I think the best bit of advice I was given is to try and keep to a normal routine.  The thought of taking your children out of school is already upsetting you and will disrupt their routine as well.  I might be speaking out of turn but I would try and keep to your and their normal routine as much as possible.  Good luck on your journey.

    Lee x

  • I would leave kids in school with their routine. Mine went to school. I was fine. Just take precautions like you did during covid with hand washing ect.

    I've had chemotherapy and it was hard going. I wouldn't have had the energy some days to look after them never mind the home schooling.

    However everyone is different. The choice is yours at the end of the day. If you choose to keep them home make sure you have lots of support and time to yourself.

    I wish you well in your recovery. Sending hugs xx

  • I would definitely say the same as the others. I have 3 children and went through chemo last year. I started it in the summer holidays and found that tricky, once they had gone back to school it was a godsend just having the routine for the children and my time to recover and do all the other things! I found on the first 4-5 days of each chemo cycle when i was feeling rough I could rest in the day time but then had energy to do things with them when they got back from school. I did really up my game on the sanitising front and i did have to isolate in my room for a few days but that was when my husband got covid (not the children)!!!

    Xx