Hi, what a horrible shock, it’s a lot to take in. Welcome, appreciate you’d rather not be here but hopefully you can get a place to vent and get support here x
If you need support, sometimes you have to tell those around you exactly what you need. Many people, even those close to us l, don’t know what to say or do and, for fear of saying or-l doing the wrong thing just (as you say) pretend it’s not happening. I wish you well. It’s tough but we’re all here when you want to vent, to ask questions or even just talk about something else.
I have a husband and 13 yr old son. I try to keep my emotions in tell everyone im ok but sometimes it gets hard living that act. I’m exhausted with it. Thank you for your kind words x
Hi Sarah741. I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. It is such a shock to hear and stage 4 is even harder. What treatment are you going to have after mastectomy. Where are your secondaries? I have stage 4 lobular breast cancer and have secondaries in pelvis, spine, ribs and skull. I am on Exemastane, Ribociclib and Denosumab injections. I still have a 'normal' life and go walking and shopping , pubs etc. I am on tramadol for the pain and sometimes morphine. I hope you are okay and reaching out here is the best thing you can do. There is a forum on here for secondary breast cancer. Not as active as this one. I am here if you need to chat. Big hugs.
Yes exhausting. My daughter was 4 the first time I had breast cancer and 9 the second, I agree it’s really hard putting on a brave face and I wasn’t stage 4 too, it was still tough. I hope you are able to be more unguarded with your husband? I had counselling through out my treatment (and to this day!) I find having someone I can be totally frank and honest with helps me so much. I also found friends here who helped and I called Macmillan a couple of times, once for over 2 hours, and cried and ranted, they were amazing. I had treatment with a lady who was stage 4, she had found a balance with living well and having her treatment but that took her time and hard work. We’re here when you need to tell it how it is x
