Glad I got lump checked

nope, wear hat w hair and wig with hat and a nice wig that can be alone, keep them guessing all diff lengths

Personally I do go bald in public, but try not to catch people’s eyes and just get on with what I’m doing. Now the weather has turned cooler I do sometimes wear a beanie hat to keep warm. There are some great wigs and hats with hair.  
i find that resilience can rise and fall so it is nice to have a few options to match how you are feeling on any particular day. 

I do admire people like you, Hedera! I almost shaved my head a week ago, my hair length is about 5mm now and it actually looks pretty cool for now because my hair is shedding, but no bald patches yet. The only reason why I don't go out bald in public is that I know people will stare. Plus I don't want people to feel sorry for me because I don't feel sorry for myself. Yet going out bald in public kind of empowers you, no doubt about that! xx 

I would guess that hair 5mm can look stunning. I remember when our son had cancer and lost his hair, it came back pretty quickly. But I agree about not wanting people to feel sorry for me. Life could be a lot worse. I can walk, drive, get about on my own, take pleasure in a warm sunny day.

I hope everything goes well for you and your family, it's never easy dealing with cancer. My mum had cancer as well as my father-in-law. Fingers crossed for your treatment, stage 3 is still curable and not what it used to be years ago. I am stage 2 but they couldn't get clear margins after my mastectomy so I am doing chemo and then radioterapy. Let's hope for the best! xx