Breast cancer

Hi DMM

Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer.  People often don't know what to say when you tell them you have cancer so they usually say the first thing that comes into their head.  It's perfectly understandable that you are terrified of what's ahead of you.  Being diagnosed with cancer is a shock to the system.  Whatever you do don't google your breast cancer as the information on there is years out of date.  Rely on sites like this one and breast cancer now for your information.

Wishing you the best of luck with your operation in 4 weeks time.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Hi daisy 

Thanks for the reply and best wishes. I'm sure this is the best place to be and I'm around people who are going through the same as me.

Many thanks ,

i had to say stop treating me like the poor little sick person, when people keep saying you have to have goals and positive outlook. and unsolicited advice.

i haven't had a negative one I don't think. I’m not all smiles, but each day is after the next. i see past this but I’m also mourning my life before this. 

Take the time you need to process. I recommend reading peoples experiences on here and asking here for help understanding it all.

i followed a woman's progress from a few years ago with a similar diagnosis and it helped me a lot to understand what to expect when the waiting part was the hardest

sorry you are here but welcome. hugs

Hi DMM sorry to read your diagnosis.  Yes can really relate to everything you've said.  I either found myself masking my own feelings to support other people or feeling a bit of a drama queen as people top trumped me with their cancer stories.

You're totally right everyone of us in this club are unique and will deal with it differently.  I hope your treatment goes well, if you have any queries or just need a vent please come on here, I've found this site has kept me almost sane on my pathway through this.

Take Care

xx

Hi DMM,

Welcome to the forum I’m sure you did not want to join, but you will get a lot of support and good information on here.  I can relate to how you feel and agree that everyone deals with this in their own way.  I had my lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy 9 days ago and am doing well.  It was not as bad a I imagined and am just awaiting the results.  So I wish you well with your op too.  

I also agree that we all put on our fake smiles and appear to be very positive and upbeat about it all to everyone,  but inside and on our own, we are just as scared and feel vulnerable like everyone else.  It’s the unknown I think, and the waiting.  I am glad you have a good support network, it does help a lot.  Take care and sending hugs.  

Hi auntflo..thanks so much for the kind words. I know it's a struggle for everyone involved from partners to family. Sometimes it's just better saying nothing. I will use this site if and when I need to. The support is always needed for everyone

Take care xx

DM 

Hugs right back at you orchid, and here's wishing you a safe and speedy recovery.

Take care xx

DM