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hi moonriver,

pretty much where you are, lost, shocked, overwhelmed, scared.

but you found this place so hopefully the people can help you feel less lost and understanding what may be next.

sorry to hear about your daughter, but so many are surviving this don’t cross any bridges until you have to and don’t google. use places like this with people who have been there and are there.

there is going to be a lot of waiting for answers, but again this place can help.

Thank you Djct for your reply. Yes, all the emotions playing havoc. And the waiting! I've never known time to go so slow. 

Hi Moonriver, I m sorry to hear about your daughter too, as Djct said, you have come to the right place. Everyone is so kind and helpful on here and in the early hours of the morning when you can't sleep it helps to say how you feel as there is always someone who understands. Your daughter is lucky to have your support, but remember to look after yourself too. It is a roller coaster of emotions where you don't know or can't work out how you feel, but just ask on here if you have questions, I have read and received fab advice.... sending you both huge hugs x

Hi moonriver welcome to the club no one wishes to be in. Definitely a great place for advice and support if you need to vent about anything. Try to encourage your daughter to join too. Don't forget there is also the Macmillan telephone support line as well.  Advice to both of you - avoid Dr google. They are well-meaning but can frighten the life out of you. And remember no question is silly on here. Ask anything as the chances are someone will have heard about something or been through a similar situation. 

Hugs to you all don't be a stranger

Hi MoonRiver

Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you daughter has been diagnosed with breast cancer.  There is a group for the family and friends that you can also join to get support from other family members whose loved ones are going through cancer.  Here's the link to that forum: Family and friends forum .

Wishing you and your daughter the best of luck with everything.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Thank you. Early hours are proving tricky.

Thank you ever so much for the link.

Thank you and yes I will most definitely get my girl to join. 

Yes, I think there is a common theme for many, and that's the waiting which is tough, but also not being able to sleep as our brains start over thinking. It really did get easier for me when I got in touch with others or read their journeys. Not every day is easy, but you will be amazed by the kindness, support and help and advice...people are so supportive on here and understand the need for all emotions. Here if you ever need to talk, sending huge hugs xxx

That's a common emotion at the beginning, it's such a shock. Getting on with diagnosis and treatment gives a focus. I don't like anaesthetics but just knew I had to do it to save my life. Each stage brings stress whisky waiting, it's all part of it. My op was in Dec. Radiotherapy at the end of Feb this year. I told myself I would dance in Pride if I didn't need chemo. I did it just over a week ago. 

I felt planning for beyond it helped me. Walking 30 mi s five times each week, as recommended helped. Just something as a distraction. Insomnia isn't easy but I'm alive.