Diagnosis

Hi Goodmum welcome to the forum and you are not alone I assure you of feeling  scared, you wouldn,t be human if you weren,t.

Life has been turned upside down for you and the next few weeks are likely to be hard and uncertain for you. I do however, feel that once you know what the plan is in place you will feel a bit better and more in control of  what is happening  for you.  We are here for you at any point in time and we will support you as much as you need us to do that.

Sending some hugs meantime. xxx

Aaaah - bless you. We have all been there with that heartbreak. This is the worst stage, the diagnosis without all the information and the waiting game. I had this over Christmas and new year and its awful. The unknown is frightening and suddenly life is different beyond what you imagined.

Honestly you will feel better once you know the information and you have your treatment plan. You somehow willl fell that you have a bit more control as you consider the options. Meanwhile have you been given the number for your local breast care nurses? It’s definitely worth seeking some support from them. I felt I really needed this in that first month.

I have enlisted one of my friends a my specific ‘going through treatment’ buddy. She regularly checks in with me and we have an agreement that I can contact her anytime to talk about anything. Mostly I speak to her about things other than cancer, but the point is that I know and she knows that it can be the cancer if that’s what i need/want. She said she felt privileged that I asked her, and I would feel the same if someone asked me so perhaps it might be worth considering?

I am a third though chemotherapy now and its been going ok - happy to answer any questions you may have as things arise for you although there are people on here much further on in the journey.

You will get there - We can be beside you here. You can do this and you will.

Make sure you treat yourself kindly in this process. Take the time you need to process what’s happening but try not to dwell or overthink - it’s the work of the devil and will take you to unhelpful places. Instead be mindful of the strength and resources that have pulled you through challenges before. Honestly, I have found this the best way to move forward.

Your broken heart will heal with the love and support of those around you - including us here.

Jan x x

Hi Good mum, sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It is a scary rollercoaster ride to start with. Once all the tests are done and they have a clear picture of the type of cancer you have they will give you a tailored plan to suit your needs. We all understand exactly how you are feeling and it’s great you have reached out to the forums so we can help support you on your journey. 
When you get your plan things will be much easier. Take one stage at a time so it doesn’t become overwhelming. Also occasionally plans can change as treatment progresses for various reasons, but don’t worry it is all still continued to tailor your needs. 
Try not to google anything as this can often be out of date and very scary. There are so many types of breast cancers and if you look into the wrong one you could scare yourself. When you are ready discuss things with family and friends, they can help support you and maybe even help with things around the house. If you have children depending on age etc you might want to let them know what’s going on. We told our kids (12 &15) straight away and didn’t hide anything from them. We didn’t wait till a plan was in place we told them just what we had been told at that meeting,scan examination etc. Everyone is different and this may not be practical for you. The Macmillan nurses can advise on telling children if needed.

At the maggie or Macmillan centres there is lots of help and advice to find and also various courses which offer help like how to tie scarves, a look good feel better course,. They also offer great freebie packs on these courses which are fantastic and a great way to help support you. 

If you want to click on my name you can read my diagnosis and journey so far. 

Wishing you all the best for your journey.

Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

I was diagnosed 4 weeks ago, so I'm not much help giving you useful advice...but writing and being part of this community has helped me a lot. And I'm going through the same... It's very scary but it gets better once you know the treatment plan. All the best on the 28th...keep posting :)

Thank you for all your kind replys.  Xx

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Got my diagnosis end of Jan. Mine is hormone negative and protein positive making it aggressive. However targeted therapy plus chemo got rid of the lump five days after my first treatment. 

Will be going for surgery after 6 cycles of chemotherapy and the radiotherapy.  Not looking that far ahead yet as only had third chemo last week.

Was iniatyially nxious and got panic attacks. Since treatment started, I am calmer. Family support has been amazing and I know with God's grace we'll make it. Good luck  

Oh bless you Alicia. I praying every night that I will be okay. I am hoping things will be better from me once treatment  starts. God bless you. We can do this  xx

You will be OK. Do you know the type of cancer you have?

No not yet Alicia I go this coming Friday to find and and get my care plan xx