Hello Everyone!
I'm a new member, and I'm sure there are many of you who have experienced what I am experiencing at the moment. My wife has been diagnosed with breast cancer, and been treated, for two years now. She has recently been advised that a mastectomy is now possible (one breast) and is due to have this surgery soon.
I know that this is a common type of surgery/treatment in this situation, and should be beneficial for my wife's health in the long term.
However, since we were interviewed and advised by the consultant, I have struggled to accept the situation emotionally and psychologically. I feel in a kind of state of grief and terrible upset, even though there are clearly positive factors. I fear for the present, and for the future. Will things ever be the same again?
Has any other husband or partner had these feelings? Or is it just me? And what helped you to get through it - so that I will be better able to help my wife get through it.
Thank you so much for any advice and help, based on your own experience.
Kind Regards
Normandy
Hi Nortmandy
Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear about your wife's breast cancer. It's perfectly understandable that you are feeling upset about what's ahead for you and your wife. I suggest that you join the family and friends forum as well and maybe the carers only forum where you will get advice and support from those whose family members are having or have had treatment for cancer. Here's the link to both forums: https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/carers-only-forum, Family and friends forum . I also suggest that your wife joins the breast cancer forum as well.
Wishing you and your wife the best of luck for the future.
Best wishes
Daisy53
Hi, I think what you're feeling right now is pretty normal for many partners, my husband experienced a real sense of helplessness that was difficult to adjust to as well. In addition to Daisy's suggestion to join the other forum, you can also give the lovely people at the Macmillan helpline a call. They have great experience in talking this through and you can call them on 0808 808 0000. Best wishes
