Hello

Hello, sorry to hear that you have had this news, what you are feeling is very normal and you will find many of us have felt or are feeling the same.  It’s good that you have found and joined this community as there is a lot of support, advice and encouragement on here from people in the same situation as you.

I have just finished chemo for my third episode of breast cancer, the first was in 2009, and I have been surprised by the new treatments and advances since then, so things are improving all the time. For now, though, you are at the beginning, and I expect your head is still spinning. I hope you have good support around you, you can use this forum for any questions or to share any worries you might have or to just have a rant and I’m sure you will find others happy to share their experiences or to just agree that sometimes it’s just rubbish!!

I wish you all the best with your treatment

Mary

I think it’s just the fear of the unknown,I’m a worrier usually so scared of what’s ahead of me,they said they can’t cure it but can manage it,it’s really overwhelming and just feel like there’s no joy in life at the moment just full of uncertainty

I hope that when you next see your oncology team, they will have a treatment plan, as that will be something tangible. I think your feelings are very understandable, as you have had a real shock, and are now having to deal with a tough situation.. You can get counselling from Macmillan, which can be very helpful and give you the space to share your anxieties with people who get it and who have experience of supporting women with a similar diagnosis.

You will see that many of us on here advocate taking one day at a time, as sometimes that’s enough to manage. Don’t be afraid to cry or to ask for help, you are not alone. x

Next appointment is Tuesday but I dread going as worry what they will say.I try the one day at a time but my mind begins to wander to the bad thoughts 

Hi HMG123. It’s perfectly normal to be so anxious and it is exhausting. Something which helped me was trying to do practical things - going to be staying in hospital so I organised my ‘hospital bag’….. good excuse to splurge on lovely new PJs lol. Might be off my food - so stocked the freezer up with food, bought nice chocs and tbags and such. Going to feel pretty miserable /tired - stocked up on books to read, nice bubble bath  and such like. Little comfort or consolation I know, but I found it gave me some focus, planning what I could do to prepare. Hugs 

Your right is is exhausting,I wish I could take things as they come instead of worrying about things that might not even happen