Hello, new on here

Hi Aliberry, sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It’s natural to be scared and have anxiety issues. You have been on a rollercoaster ride already and everyone knows how you feel. You will find lots of people on the forum in similar situations who can offer support. Do you have some close friends or family that can help support you as you start your journey? Your local Macmillan centre or Maggies centre can offer lots of support and advice and can put you in contact with organisations that can help you. Once you have your confirmed diagnosis you will have an individual treatment plan which helps make things a lot clear and easier. It’s best to take it each stage at a time rather than trying to work on the whole thing as it can be very overwhelming. Waiting is always the hardest part of the diagnosis and sometimes it seems to be a long wait. Try to keep yourself busy, I know it’s easier said than done. We are here to help and you’ve made a great step forward by joining the online chat. It’s here 24/7 and there are always others online ready to chat and offer support. If you click on people’s names you can see their journey so far and it’s a good way to see others with similar diagnosis.

Wishing you all the best in your journey.

Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Hi cuffcake, 

I will do, I just don’t real have any close  friends , I have friends through my horses, but don’t want to Burden them with my worries, it’s the same with my family.. I’m always been the strong one for everyone else..

Thank you, and thank you for the virtual hug really need it today. x

Hi Aliberry, it’s great you have always been the strong one and that will mean a lot to your family, friends and you too. I hope that when and if you feel up to talking to them about your journey they will be there and strong for you and give you lots of support too. Horses I love horses, I used to ride horses many years ago, it was a lovely relaxing pastime, enjoy
Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Hello Aliberry - you do sound overwhelmed by it all and I fully understand….. it’s a club no one wants to join!

it’s easier to cope with if you break it down into chunks…. And please remember that cancer can be cured! 
with regard to cost of petrol, macmillan can help- contact them and explain your circumstances, they can access monies to help you.  Fuel bills are a worry this year so heat yourselves rather than your house… lots of layers will keep you warm

cintact some of the cancer groups…..you’d be amazed at how much help they can be 

Thanks sharon1961,

I think your right I am overwhelmed with i all, I wondering as I only found out last week it only know sinking in. . I’m going to break it down into small steps, and one appointment at a time.

Thank you again for your reply and help x

Hi cuffcake, 

I have two lovely ponies, one I haven’t had long, my husband bought her for me after I lost my other pony, but it looks like he bought one and get one free, as we found out she’s in foal and due march. So something to look forward too. I’m also very lucky that the farmer where I keep them, is my husband’s  best friend, and  have aloud me to keep them there for free until I’m I’m back on my feet.they really keep me going..My family have been great we talk every day, I don’t tell them how worried I am , but I think they know..  x

Hi Aliberry, that’s so lovely. A beautiful foal to arrive in spring and to have such a kind farmer friend is absolutely fantastic. As you say, I’m sure the family know how worried you are and it’s great to know you can talk to them everyday and they are there for you
Try to keep busy and have a lovely Christmas.

Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

i managed it like this 

• Diagnosis - need to know size and type of cancer to be able to treat it appropriately also need to know stage to target intervention
• surgery - let’s get this little sucker out and make sure lymph nodes are removed if necessary
• follow On - chemo or no chemo… radiotherapy …. This will mop up any rogue escapees
• life after cancer - need to reset and reframe. Life will forever be different but it will get easier with time 

I’m currently managing radiation burns after my radiotherapy but every twinge reminds me how far I’ve come - I am strong, I am brave and so are you xxx

Hi Aliberry - the people looking after you are amazing- they are used to patients who are scared and needle phobic. Make sure you tell them how you feel. I did and they will work with you to get through. I was diagnosed 15 months ago - have managed to get through surgery chemo and just finishing radiotherapy this week.. let people help and take each step at a time. Let your family in ! And cuddle those horses - I talk to my dogs all the time. Love x

Hiya. Try not to worry. Cancer treatment is so much more advanced now. I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Once the treatment plan was explained to me I took it one day at the time. I started chemo hrough a piccline in the arm) 10th May, 6 weeks after my hubby passed away. Had quite a few side effects but meds deal with that. In June I started weekly chemo until 22nd September. Mastectomy and mphnodes removal on 13th October and recovered well. The cancer nurses are ever so helpful with and queries. Also contact Macmillan. You can get a £350 grant to help you out. Try not to stress and sy positive.