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Hello Dido, I’m so sorry to read this. I suspect that this has been quite a shock for you both. I understand why your mum feels like this. It is very scary. Well, it was for me. That’s lovely that you are going to look after her. But you need to look after yourself too. I’m not sure if mum is having a mastectomy, but if so, then she will be a tad restricted on some movements and household chores for a while. Things like ironing and carrying bags. She might have got a leaflet about this. And she will be advised to do some exercises too. They are ok, but important. It sounds like it’s early days, and it’s sometimes helpful to take one day at a time. I’ll stop here as I’m sure someone else might say some extra things. I wonder if you are young. There is support out there for you too. If you nee£ to talk to someone for advise, or just a listening ear, then the Macmillan helpline can be useful. 

Thanks cloudier

Mum's known for ages .us just she's in her late 70s me I'm 50 so hayho.yes was a big shock .

Just trying to  get prepared  but not scare her more.

Hi Dido g

welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that your mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer cancer.  It's perfectly understandable that your mum is struggling with her diagnosis.  The best piece of advice I give you is to be guided by your mother.  As Cloudier has said she will be restricted  in what she can do, she won't be able to do any heavy lifting for while for instance.

Wishing you and your mother the best of luck.

Best wishes

Daisy53