Mama has breast cancer

Actually I guess I do have a question, a practical one. My pops lives with my mama and her chemo is about an hour from their house. It starts at once a week, then 3 times a week and he is taking her. My pops works but my ma is seasonal so her work has finished. His work have been supportive but now he has run out of annual leave, the chemo is 4 months and it will be hard to support my ma and work and he will have to look at unpaid leave, he has a good salary but at this time can't afford to take a pay cut. I visit when I can but also work full time. How does it work in these scenarios ? X

Hi Chayes321, and a very warm welcome to the forum. Sorry you find yourself here but it’s a great place for support and shared experiences. You’re very welcome to post here, and there’s also a group here for families where you’ll find others supporting loved ones with cancer. 
Re practical help with appointments, I’d suggest phoning the Macmillan helpline as they have a range of advisers to help with such issues. I’m sure others will pop in too with advice, sorry I don’t know about your specific question. 
Well done for reaching out, it’s such a shock having a cancer diagnosis in the family. Here is a safe place to ask questions, rant and rave if you need to, chat with others going through similar stuff. Love and hugs, HFxx 

I blv most trusts have some kind of patient transport.. also I was stage 3 and a year later treatment done, all clear, trust the doctors, take deep breath and don't let your mind run away with you, concentrate on the next appointment and plan. xxx

Hello and welcome.  Your mother should ask at her hospital breast care unit if any transport options as there maybe community transport.  Also when she m es into radiotherapy it's usually daily for 1-3 weeks.  Many find it ok to drive themselves but other require lifts.  If she has friends locally who genuinely say "anything I can do" maybe ask if they could give your mother a lift once a fortnight etc - nothing too onerous but you could then set up a rota,  When I offer support to family, friends or neighbours and say "I'm happy to give lifts if I'm free" I mean it. eg  I took my daughters MIL once a week for 2 months to visit her husband in hospital an hour away as she didn't drive.  My offers are always genuine. 

Secondly I don't wish this to sound harsh but I know your mother will be stressing about the effect of her diagnosis on you, her baby - it's what mothers do; try not to use the words "we have cancer" as it might upset her thinking she's inflicted this on you.  She has cancer, she is undergoing treatment  

, treatment that can be difficult both physically and mentally.  It's not a battle as she hasn't chosen to compete so ask people to refrain from saying you can beat this, or you'll win the battle.  Tell them to acknowledge how difficult it is for her physically and mentally but that they 3ill support in anyway they can.   Your mother will hide her fears from you and your father to protect you.  Give her a link to this forum and tell her to join.  Tell her to keep her user name private from you.  Tell her it's a safe place to voice her fears, ask her questions, no matter how trivial.  She will interact with ladies past and present on treatment who will understand the middle of night worry gremlins.