Waiting to tell?

Hi, 

I am so sorry for your loss, this must be so hard for you, please please do not feel guilty, you deserve to feel happy this was caught early. I bet your family would much prefer you to not beat yourself up about any of this, it’s time wasted when you have a life to live. Non of us know what is around the corner and feeling guilty serves no-one. 

Remember you matter in all this and I am sure they would want to know what you are going through. Please talk to them soon. 

xxx

Hi Ann mc

First , I am so sorry for your losses . So much sadness and now you have to find the strength to get through the cancer diagnosis. My heart goes out too you. 
I am 1 week after receiving my last radiotherapy session and now am taking Letrozole and ibandronic acid to hopefully keep the cancer from returning. 
My thoughts on telling family …… I told my two sons ( 1 ( age 43, lives locally and the other one ( age 45 , lives in London ) as soon as I was diagnosed, even before I knew grade etc and what treatment I was going to undertake. They have been with me through the whole journey which in my case only started 16 weeks ago after a routine mammogram discovered the tumour so things have moved on very quickly. 
we have regular zoom meetings with my family in London so I did not want to be in the situation where I was ‘putting on a brave face ‘ or pretending I was fine . We do a lot of childcare for the son who lives locally so it helped him to understand that some days we might not be able to help out. I felt it was unfair to them .
Having been on the other side with both my parents having had cancer I too knew immediately and it helped me to understand if they were in low mood, or not feeling great and therefore I could support them. 

we did not tell our 5 young granddaughters, age 4 to 10 years until I had to start radiotherapy. As children do, they listened, asked lots of questions , then got on with other stuff but I do receive lots and lots of extra cuddles now . 
Telling family was the hardest thing but them knowing has given me strength and extra support very much needed . 
You have really positive news to start off the conversation and any further treatment , the way I look at it, is too stop it coming back or spreading. 

I hope you can come to a decision that you are comfortable with.

Take care, I wish you a hopeful and positive journey.

NannaJ xx 

I will have a chat with my eldest brother and go from there. 

Thank you for you help.

Thank you. 

Thank you. I will.