Hi all

Hi PLP and welcome to the forum. It’s a club we’d never choose to join but great for support and shared experiences. Glad you’ve finished your treatment, but sorry to hear that your daughter has also been diagnosed with cancer. Would she like to join in here do you think? I don’t know your respective ages but there is (I think) a group here for under 50s with breast cancer, although this main breast cancer group seems to be the busiest for obvious reasons. There’s a lovely lady here who has supported her daughter through a different cancer before getting breast cancer herself. I’ll tag her - hope you don’t mind moomy - as she may have other advice to offer re supporting a daughter. Sending love and hugs to you both, HFxx

Thanks, HappyFeet1 for tagging me! 

Hi, PLP if there’s anything I can say which will help, do just ask; the main thing from my experience is just be there for her, show her your love and listen to her fears, yes my daughter got diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma (supposedly easy to treat) in 2004 aged 26. She had a huge amount of treatment over almost 10 years and is doing fairly well now, though has some ongoing resultant problems.

sending a big hug xxx

Hello HappyFeet1 and moomy. Thanks for the replies.

I'm not sure whether she would join, every time any of us mentions BC she just bursts into tears. Can't talk about it whether it's mine or hers that's under discussion. Every time I show affection she cries.....I'm at a total loss as to what to say or do.

She's in her very early 50s and had to come off HRT as it's ER+ and PR+ so her tears could be menopause related I suppose. Also they'd just put an offer in on a new home and accepted one on theirs when she found out. Obviously there's a lot of stress there too.

She has LCIS with some invasive lobular too. I've been told about a description of LCIS on  Cancer Research UK so I've been and looked at that because she worried that it wasn't 'normal breast cancer'. She's usually a very brave, unemotional person, this diagnosis has totally floored her. I don't know what to say to her or what I can do to help.....I only have to look at her and she's in tears.
 

PLP xxxxx