Hey I’m from Derry in Ireland have two teenage kids and three stepsons all under 13
got my diagnosis last week and still trying to get it sink in. I know it’s happening but it still feels like I’m observing it happen to someone else.
anyone else feel like that
just on here as I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do next. Hopefully meet like minded people that can help share the load and I will do the same right back
Hi, sorry to hear of your diagnosis. To be honest, sometimes I still feel like it's happened to someone else, so I think that's pretty normal. Do you have a treatment plan yet? Once I had that I felt more,able to cope. Best wishes
Yes, I think that sort of detachment is about being in shock - it takes a lot of adjusting to deal with this sudden ‘shift’ in life.
I found that once the treatment starts there is a roller coaster of appointments and meeting different people and that helped with feeling more in control and managing all the emotions.
I hope your friends and family will be a support for you. Even young children can be remarkably comforting!
that’s me just finished my treatment - diagnosed in September then chemo and radiotherapy. What a journey I’ve been through! And now I’m just beginning to feel a bit more normal. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck xx
Does feel like a bad dream tbh. Currently had my lumpectomy/node removal. Cancer free, but still having to undergo chemo, injections, Radiotherapy andong term hormone suppressant tablets to prevent reoccurrence. Diagnosis was Invasive Ductal Carcinoma, Hormone receptive, O8 and Her2+. Bit of a huggar tbh, hard concept to get your head around. Jo x
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