Support for my friend

Best advice is allow her to offload her fears.  While it's tempting to say "you'll be fine" or tell her positive stories of  those who been successfully treated it does  feel as if people dismiss and down play your diagnosis when it's a big deal being told you have cancer.  Stage 1 has excellent prognosis but she needs time to grieve her precancer life and get her head around it.  She doesn't need your tears or sad tilted head she needs you to say that it's ok to talk, that you'll listen etc.  

Does she have treatment plan.  I was early cancer DCIS so surgery & radiotherapy for me but no chemo or hormone therapy .  Be practical.  Cook her a meal, offer lifts, take her out for quiet walks.  Tell her to join this site as we get it.  We understand the midnight worry gremlins plus she can ask about treatment options x

Thanks so much for your helpful reply, that all makes good sense.
yes she does have a treatment plan, she’s to have chemo, surgery and radiotherapy. The hair loss is really freaking her out right now, any advice on wigs?

 Thanks x

Hi, you might also find this chat group, specifically for friends and family, to be helpful.  Best wishes 

Friends and family

Get the wig sorted asap. My daughter took me to the salon, we ordered wig and then went out for lunch afterwards. I still cried though. She should get an NHS voucher towards wig. My hair loss has started today, 6 days before Chemo Cycle 2, next Tuesday. Jo x

Hi, have a read of my blog on my wig fitting. I've just stopped wearing it, a year on, but I really loved it. 

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Thanks for this, good advice  

must be so tough x

At my hospital, when I went for my assessment prior to chemo I was given the name of a person linked with the hospital who would call me regarding wigs. She phoned and told me about wigs.uk.  Some hospitals have a contract with this UK based company, and the agreement is that you chose 3/4 from the site. You email your hospital contact, she orders them and they get delivered to your home. You try them on and you can keep one. It doesn’t matter how much the wig costs online, the hospital will only invoice you for £75. The wigs you don’t want you take back to the hospital, and they return them to the company for you. I hope this info is useful.