Hello. Struggling with my Mum recently diagnosed

FormerMember
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Hello,

My mum was recently diagnosed at the start of this year with ER+ HER2- Breast Cancer stage 2. Feel extremely lucky that it was caught early and biopsys/scans confirmed that it hadn’t got into the lymph nodes before the surgery date.

she had a her lumpectomy just over 3 weeks ago. We recently attended the post op appointment in which we were told cancer was found in 1 of the 3 lymph nodes that were removed during surgery and i’m devastated! :(
she had her CT scan today and awaiting for the results and i’m really struggling with the unknown but trying to stay strong for my mum. I feel hopeless and so weak right now.

thought i would come and say hello to someone who understands how i’m currently feeling. 

Thankyou for listening x

  • I had the same diagnoses and all looked clear on scans. After surgery if came back that it was macro jn 2 lymph nodes and micro in the other two- so all four sentinel nodes. 
    I’m awaiting pathology from node clearance to see how many more.

    however, my subsequent Ct scan was clear so it doesn’t mean it’s gone anywhere else.

    my aunty also had one lymph node effected and she’s 6 years post-diagnoses and no evidence of disease still so positive nodes don’t always mean the worst and 1 node is very limited involvement. 
    x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Hel39

    Hello,

    thankyou for taking the time to reply to me i really appreciate it! 
    sorry you are going through this, cannot imagine how you must be feeling. 
    the waiting for me is really difficult as i’m scared of the results and feels like the days are going really slow!

    i’m really glad your CT can back clear! Hope all goes well for your pathology.

    thankyou for the positivity, its really what i need right now! so kind of you.

    sending you lots of strength xxx 

  • Thank you. 
    If you go on the nhs predict website and put her details in, it will give you her survival stats as 5, 10 and 15 years. Mine were better than I’d hoped, even with node involvement. They aren’t great with 4 nodes but one barely made much difference (I tried it all ways before I got full pathology). Even with significant nodes…they’re still way over 50%. 

    I hope all goes well with her scans. Xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Hel39

    Do you have an idea of what treatment you are going to have?

    or what your aunty had?

    if you don’t mind sharing that with me that would be appreciated!

    thankyou xx 

  • No problem at all.

    im having chemo over 18 weeks (6rounds), radiation and then 10 years of hormone blockers. 

    my aunty only had radiation X 15 and 5 years of letrozole (after lumpectomy)which she found fine. No real side effects from either treatment. 

    X

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Hel39

    Thankyou very much,

    really appreciate your help!

    hope your treatment plan goes well for you.

    sending lots of love and strength xxx