Helping a friend in need

Hi, sounds like your friend is having a tough time, but she is lucky to have you to support her.

You might want to check out the friends and family group the link is Here

There's also a secondary breast cancer group, and from your post I think that's what you are describing, so the link for that is Here

I hope these help. You, or your friend, can also call Macmillan and have a chat to one of their team of specialists. I am sure they will have some ideas on how to tackle this. It must be very difficult when a loved one's way of coping is to try and not to think about the future, but I can also see how this is a coping strategy, albeit not one that's very practical but then we all cope differently. 

good luck 

Really kind of you to be looking out for them like this. There is a friends and family forum that might offer some support too. MacMillan also have lots of resources and you are able to contact them yourself your help, I’ve don’t that myself in the past for friends, they’ve sent me the details and I’ve past it on. Call them and have a chat, sometimes much easier than a generic forum. You don’t say what your friends prognosis has been but there are many people surviving for years with stage 4 cancer, some ladies on here and I have a friend who I have chemo with who is doing really well. It’s a common response in partners to shut down to some hard realities, it’s their way of coping. The important thing is that you don’t push him, just give him the space to bring it all up with you, keep listening and make time to spend with him, there’ll come a time when he will want to talk, you don’t want to alienate him before then by forcing it. Good luck to you and feel free to ask us questions here x