I had a routine mammogram in November recalled on 13th (unlucky for me!) had breast & lymph node biopsies
Diagnosed on 22nd with Grade 3 invasive ductal cancer Oest 8 Her 2 positive, 20% Proliferation 2 or 3 lymph nodes affected
Saw surgeon and nurse option surgery then chemo or Herceptin/chemo then surgery. I asked what he would do he said the latter, I agreed. CT scans of chest, abdomen and pelvis and breast MRI done last Weds and Friday, no results as yet. MDT meets Tuesday but no news today. Have an appointment to see the oncologist on 18th January.
Am scared the waiting is just awful Christmas and New Year was cancelled unfortunately I had the most awful cold, chest & eye infection, caught from my Grandkids so we had to shelve plans even before my cancer diagnosis, two lots of antibiotics and 3 weeks later am just feeling better, wasn’t Covid!
Am 56, no kids my husband has 2 grown up children hence my 2 grandkids they don’t do step, just grandma!!
The waiting is just awful, my poor husband seems more depressed than me! We recently lost my brother’s wife at the age of 58 due to endometrial cancer that had spread, she was misdiagnosed in primary care, her funeral was in October 21. My poor family just don’t need this as well
UPDATE today 6/1/22
Just got a call from my nurse and Oncologist appointment brought forward to Tuesday 11th at 09:20, she gave me the impression that nothing else has changed so am hoping scans are ok! (She obviously couldn’t tell me but 
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Hi Amelie11 so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, but you've come to the right place for support. Your diagnosis and treatment plan sounds very similar to mine, check out the details on my profile by clicking on my username. I am now 11 months past my initial finding a lump and I am doing well. The chemo killed all the active cancer cells prior to surgery and I am now into preventative treatment.
My husband, who is much more introverted than me, struggled, especially at first. Once treatment started and we got through the first round of chemo, it was evident I was coping ok and he became easier with it, but I think it's often harder to watch someone else, and must be more so with your recent family history. and the waiting is by far the worst phase in my view.
My key piece of advice at this stage is to resist the temptation to Google anything. Stick to reliable websites like Macmillan’s for factual info and explanations and don't let Dr Google scare you with the extremes.
Best of luck as you get started with treatment
Thank you 
