New diagnosis

Aww bless you, I am sure your son will be amazing through this too x you have the same type as me mine was also pea size lump, I had a lumpectomy & had chemo for to the grade of my cancer after surgery, remember everyone’s diagnosis is different, they will tailor your plan to you & chemo may not even be needed xxx 

No problem. Until Covid I was working in schools (at least 2 a day). Until you work in them you don’t appreciate what germ factories they are. I had to isolate from the date I got my surgery appointment, do a drive thru PCR at the hospital which was about 5 days in all. Our household all isolated to be safe. 

Rachel

Hi JoDo72

Sorry you're going through this like so many of us it seems. My thought is that you do whatever you need to do to avoid a 7 week delay in your op.

I don't have kids but the honesty route others have described absolutely sounds the best to me.

I'm a nanny looking after 2 young girls who go to different schools. I opted to isolate for 10 days prior to my op, purely to have my best chance of avoiding covid and making it to my op (20 Dec). I felt bad taking the time off initially, but realised if there's ever a time to put myself and my health first then this was it.

I also hated the experience of the MRI and somehow I hadn't expected to be lying face down. Also I'd been told it made a horrible noise, but I wasn't expecting it to keep stopping and starting and it made me jump every time. Like others have said I kept my eyes shut tight the whole way through. You can do it.

Very best wishes x

Thank you so much.  I can't put in to words how just talking to people who have gone through and gong through what I am experiencing is helping me.  You are all amazing.  Jo x

• It really does help. Friends and family can be wonderful, but sharing real stories and experiences, aswell fears and struggles, with people who really get it is amazing 

Yes, I totally agree.  I am really lucky to have a really supportive network around me, but I do find that I am trying to be strong for them, and to keep being told to stay positive, although I totally understand and love them for it, can be exhausting. x

Just to echo what the others have said, I think it’s ok to be honest emotionally. I’ve had times when I’ve just looked at her and said I’m sorry I feel so rubbish and I’ve had a moment and she’s been fine, they see you go through it and they worry of course but when you’re honest about feeling crap they believe you when you’ve the energy for other things, it’s been an oddly bonding experience. Obviously I’ve done real off loading on friends but her seeing me occasionally falter and her help perk me up has strengthened our relationship.

When I had my first mri, they got me on the blocks face down and then asked me to wiggle up an inch. Well. You’re lying there, boobs in free fall, wiggling like a worm, I got the giggles at just how ridiculous it all was, I  can’t help but wonder what all the beeps and whirls and noises are about either! But thank god some amazing geek created that machine cause it’s helping save our lives. He could make it quieter though surely!! I think if you’re concerned and want to keep him off just do it, it won’t be the end of the world, I’ve gone with my gut throughout so you do the same x

The more I read, the more I am convinced that complete honesty is the best way to go.  

Anna12345 that just made me laugh. I was asked to wiggle up too. Almost impossible. I think that was my overriding thought while it was banging away... how on earth did somebody invent this machine. I clung on to the alarm and almost pressed it a couple of times, but the thought of having to start all over again was too much. One thing I did think afterwards that would have helped me is if they'd been able to say 'Well done youre half way', or 'just 3 minutes left' etc etc. Not having a clue how long I had to go was difficult x 

I got as far as 3cm in and went in to fight/flight mode.  It wasn't happening.  My whole body just took over and it's like my brain had no say in what my body was about to do ..i.e. run for the hills. x